Just last week I posted a comment "he's like the calm before the storm" We'll I was right, friday my brother gave me 2 tickets to a college football game my other brother is a big fan and since my husband could careless since he wouldn't be able to sit there and drink I asked my brother to go with me. We had to spend the night since it was a 4 hr drive and a night game. When I told my AH I was going the 1st thing out of his mouth was how I party all the time spending his money! 1st of all I don't party I don't even drink.... 2nd his money didn't pay for a thing. This started a big argument until I left, he was asleep when I returned that night waking me up at 4am rubbing on me. NO, why would I want to be a wake at 4am when you were an ass the night before??? He got dressed and left out house at 5am later I found a message on his FB to his ex wife (from 33 yrs ago) saying he wanted to visit her which is 3 hrs away. Nothing else as I drove that day not knowing where he was and if he was with her. Finally I got my answer sunday morning when he started messaging her again. Apparently she didn't answer him so he googled her address and showed up on her doorstep. She called a friend over that works in a rehab to sit and talk to him till he sobered up enough to drive back home. Sunday he started texting me wanting to know where I was, he didn't remember the fact that I had went to the game and who I went with. Told him I was with my brother and he accused me of F'ing around with him! How after 30 yrs could he even think or say that I would do something like that! If I wanted to be with another man it dang sure wouldn't have to be with my brother! He has said some messed up and hurtful things but I think this may be the worst. I know nothing happened between him n ex because i've seen the messages and will never let him or her know that i've seen the messages. But it still bothers me that after 33 yrs he's going to turn to her when I reject him. He's never ever done this before. Maybe he's looking for someone to pick up where I leave off if that happens. Also he has no clue that she and I have been communicating she tried calling me sat when he showed up. I've told her how bad the drinking has gotten and now shes seen it for herself! To stop the arguing and get some sleep I had to give in and comfort him took a split second and he was out! All I could do is lay my head on his chest and cry as I listened to his heart beating.  I prayed to God last night that something would give if he can't stop the drinking I don't know how I will continue. Welfare is looking pretty dare good at this moment!