My Ah is telling everyone that he is not an alcoholic, he just misuses it sometimes. He used it while we were together (23 years) to create distance and to get his peace and time for himself. He knew that I would become cold and detached and so therefore he acheived what he wanted. Then the next day he would apologize, feel guilty and spoil me with attention. This was our roller coaster ride for years. But now that I'm gone, he says that he has it completely under control. I've been gone for 2 months now. We have had no contact for 6 weeks. He has a new group of friends and is even going on a cruise over Christmas. Its very obvious that he has a girlfriend but avoids answering the question. He won't admit it.
Why do I again feel that I am the reason for his drinking? He never comes right out and blames me but always hinst to it. I've decided to go cold turkey. NO CONTACT! NO MORE INFORMATION abbout where hes going or what hes doing. I am only concentrating on me and my future. Time will tell what happens with his drinking. I have to let go!!!
But have any of your AH said that he is not an alcoholic, he just abuses it sometimes!