So far, so good - my AH has not had a drop in 60 days. He is really trying hard, however I fear that he will give in eventually. I just have to keep positive! In the meantime, the issues that lead to my "breakdown" and leaving him no choice but to stop drinking is making me wonder a little. How much does alcohol affect a person's memory? Bc my husband has always had way better memory than me. And now he is watching an old series we used to watch together yrs ago, called the XFiles. He completely does not remember some of the episodes, and I do. He would swear that we never watched them, but then I would predict the next scene and he would be shocked. Both shocked that I was right and that he really didn't remember! Also, over the years of his drinking, he concentrated heavily on the negative and not the positive. So when you bring up something he always thinks of the bad things related to the events and not the good. I was, for example, reminding him of how when we used to be involved in our bedroom activities, he would look in the mirror and be so proud of how we looked together. He completely does not remember that. He just developed a very negative attitude towards me as the years went by, in a way that it made me feel like I was a disappointment to him. His sex drive went thru the roof in the middle of when our kids were really little - still babies. And all women know how our mommy instincts take over and that most of us don't desire sex as much, especially when we are nursing and getting up 6 times a night. So this past fall he finally said how sex has just been "satisfying" and not awesome our whole married life. I was so upset. And as time went on I started to figure out that I think it was the alcohol that made him think this way. What do you gals think??