This is my first post. I've recently taken steps to help myself by going to Alanon meetings and scheduled counseling sessions for myself, since in marriage counseling, all he wants to talk about are my problems.
We've been married just 14 months and although his drinking was a concern for me before we married, I never realized it was a real problem until I started finding bottles hidden throughout the house, he's not been working for 4 months now and even when I threatened with leaving (did a few times but came back) he still can't seem to get it under control. It almost seems like we've even gone backward.
When this first came to light and I stopped making excuses and hiding it from family, his family got involved and he was able to admit (although I don't think he believed it) that he is an alcoholic, he made attempts to get clean, went to AA meetings but the sobriety would only last about a week. Now, 4 months later, he says he doesnt have a problem and "so what if I drink when I'm stressed" never mind that those times are all throughout the day and his drinks of choice are 4locos, mikes hard lemonade and cheap vodka by the pint or half gallon.
I'm stuck now and cannot decide whether I should just get out now or continue to stay. He says I'm unsupportive by choosing to distance myself and even accuses me of being an alcoholic. We are continuing couples counseling. I'm learning in alanon that I can only control myself and my behaviors. That being said, do I choose for myself to end it before I find myself 10 years in and miserable that I have wasted a decade?