I need to get used to the gap between us still not feeling all of my emotional needs are met. He expects me to tend 100% to his needs. He won't go to therapy because he said they will say we shouldn't be together. 

He is off the alcohol and behaviours are creeping into when he drank. 

I don't know any more other than to move forward with my life while he messes about?

I know he is not well because he microwaved porridge in its packet with milk making a mess. I cleaned it up.