Went to my 2nd Alanon meeting this week. 1st off let me say the first meeting my AH didn't seem happy that I was going he wanted to stress to me " Make sure u tell them ur faughts" well I guess since I'm the non alcoholic I'm at faught! He didn't have much to say this week not to me anyway. He choose to text our grown son which happens to be going through a divorce n seeing an old girlfriend that we don't approve of. I needed to know what he had said to upset my son so when he went to bed last night I looked at his phone and read like had to have been 30 text messages. Started off as he was trying to help him financially but all of a sudden his text turned into harsh words towards him n this girlfriend. No I don't like her and feel like he could do better but it's not mine nor his choice! He more or less told my son he would disown him if he stayed with her. All the anger in the text just broke my heart for my son. Yes he's a grown man but I have spent their whole lives protecting them from this man's harsh alcoholic hurtful words... Still as adult children I make sure I'm in the room when they visit so he doesn't say anything to upset them. Leave our kids out of this! I'm the one that choose to stay not them. I'm trying so hard not to confront him about this but I don't know how long I can pretend. I've asked my son to join me next week at Alanon. Hoping he will join me.