I'm kicking my AH ex-boyfriend out of my house this week. I have lawyered up and he will be getting his eviction notice on Wednesday or Thursday. We have a 3 month old son together. To hurt me, my ex-boyfriend has been refusing to see or hold our son for about 3 weeks now and on top of it, he says he wants to give up his paternity rights and abandon him. At first, I was devastated because I don't want to tell my sweet baby that his dad left him, but then I selfishly was relieved so my son won't have to watch his dad compulsively lie and manipulate everyone around him, and self-medicate every negative emotion with alcohol (among many, MANY other horrible character flaws).
Well today, now my ex wants to be in our son's life. So I'm conflicted. Do I let him be in this child's life, should the choice remain in my hands? I told him that he will not be allowed unsupervised visits until he goes to treatment and can prove he is capable of caring for our child.
Ultimately, he can always sue me for visitation or custody, so I may not have this choice, but still want to hear your thoughts. Is an alcoholic dad (who's in recovery) better than no dad at all?