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i had a rough night last night

bonblue
bonblue
My AH went to the store because he did not think we had enough food
For today . When he got home he was in such a foul mood that
He we blaming all our relationship issues on my working or me not wanting
To get sexual with him and if I wanted him to leave he would . He act
Drunk or stoned or something all he wanted to do was to rant'.
I tried to explain that it was not as bad as it seems we had plenty of food
He just continued to argue about any and everything. I finially said
I was going to bed I was not going to argue anymore .
He finally gave up and he went to bed .

I get so tired at time trying to keep the peace and calmness at home for
Him. I have to goto bed early where I have to get up at 2am.
Sometimes this is just too much
yw249
yw249
I'm sorry this is happening. I know how it feels. My AH is usually "good" on Thanksgiving and Christmas, but last year that changed. We are all praying that he is decent. My youngest son went to bed last night dreading today - he was near tears. This made me want to kick the AH out of the house right then and there. (not that I haven't tried in the past) And I don't know why AH's think their behavior will make any woman want to have sex with them. It's a complete turn off and has been for years. Let's just all pray that we can have this one day of peace from these rude, cruel, loud-mouthed, rotten drunks.
Ginny03
Ginny03
I'm sorry bonblue, I understand too like yw249. They get so irrational and common sense is gone just gone. I think the holidays make it harder on all of us. Holidays are filled with emotions and frustrations, and the AH typically makes it worse. He drinks more because it's a holiday and usually gets more belligerent, well at least mine does. :)

And the sex thing, yeah - why would we want to have sex with the person that hurts us the most? My husband has been the person that has hurt me the most and I lost all interest a long time ago.

I hope you had a good Thanksgiving, sending you peace and many hugs.
naezer
naezer
My heart goes out to you. So sorry you're having to go through this. I do hope that today went well for you and everyone on this site. Happy Thanksgiving!