I have been married to my husband for 31 years.  The last 5 years have progressively gotten worse.  He drinks every day.  I have tried to talk to him (when he is sober) to explain what he is doing to our family, our marriage and his life.  He listens and never adds anything to the conversation.  I ask him to say something and all he says is there is nothing to say.  I don't know what to do.  I am at the end of my rope.  I want the husband I married back not the one I currently have.  I can't remember the last time we sat and talked and had a good laugh.  He sleeps in the basement and doesn't show me any affection.  He says he loves me but I don't know if I believe it anymore.  When I said my marriage vows, I meant them ... for better or worse, in sickness and in health.  Everyday is a challenge.  It takes everything I have in me to not call it quits.  I know this is a disease.  If it were anything else, he would be at the doctor trying to fix the issue but he will not get help.  Is there anyway to get through to him or am I wasting my time?