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Had enough of him

sweetiepie212121
sweetiepie212121

I have been very depressed all day and was extra touchy with the alcoholic. I took his bottles from him, he walked out at 1 am. It only bothers him concerning drink . I don't get valued enough with him. 8 cannot sleep at 3 am. It is cold out tonight, he has gone to sleep in his office. His mobile phone is switched off. I used to be strong. :(

2Irish
2Irish
You are strong. you are valued. take a moment to think about your friendships and family members who love you.
ginger7657
ginger7657
It’s kind of scary taking their bottles away. You know you need to, you know it is best for them, but then you get a little nervous taking that step. I’ve been there. I’ve watched my AH pour 3/4 of a bottle of whiskey down the drain bc he was having a day where he knew he had a problem. I used to really have some hope that things would get better. But for the last 8 years or so, I’ve been dealing with this. So it’s not going to get better. He stopped some of the behavior, such as telling me he’d rather sleep with a hooker or yelling “F*ing B” from the bathroom over and over again at 3 am when he is stupid drunk bc I made a comment about his drinking. I learned to quit making comments and go on with my life. And that seems to help. I try to focus on giving my 8 and 5 year old some kind of normal life. I’ve literally created an entire line of bath products to keep my mind off the rollercoaster ride that I live on with my husband. Lol. He always said get a hobby, well I did so. And now he’s like why aren’t you spending time with me? After all the years that I came last- after his booze and his enabling family. And I am made to feel like I am a big party pooper at his family things bc I don’t enjoy watching him get completely stupid drunk so that I can drive home and have to deal with the shit he puts me through once we get home. Great, thanks family, I will get to wake up to his D*ck in my face tonight or him picking a fight with me about anything he can. It’s one or the other, lol. So yeah. He literally won’t leave. And if he does he has threatened to take my kids with. So I stay.

It’s what we make of it though. You ARE strong. All of us here are. Because we are trying to help ourselves survive this mess. I have tried to change so many things and tried so many different ways that I can help make things better. It’s hard to WANT to have sex with my husband when he shows me this side of him though too. Anyone else get like that? Then you get even more pissed bc you just crave a normal life. I hear some women complain about all these dumb things in their relationship. All I want is my husband to not have a drinking problem so I can have my best friend back. That’s it. Ugh sorry I went on a vent session there.