Thinking of you ... stay strong and we're here if you need to talk. I hope everything works out well for you.

Ditto what notmyself said.

Good luck, Tambo. It is a big step and you can be proud for taking care of yourself.

Thanks! I put the retainer down for my attorney today. I am going to have to figure out how to find where my AH is working or living to get him served. He does not call to check on the kids and the few times that I had talked with him, he never asked about them. It is really sad, but he has been this way before. It will be HIS loss! My attorney told me that Missouri is hard to get sole custody in. I hope that after 4 DWI's, some abuse, etc. that they will not give us joint custody! I told my attorney that I am not some crack pot wife trying to make up things. I told her that everything was documented with the courts! I only hope that it is enough???

Good luck, Tambo.

I live in another state but have some background with the court system. Documentation is what the Court looks for. If the Court won't grant you sole custody, with the documentation that he is actively drinking, maybe they will order supervised visitation.

He doesn't sound like he cares too much about the children right now because he's too busy drinking but it's amazing how involved he will want to become when it comes to child support and how much he will have to pay.

Stay strong. You took such a brave step for you and your children.

Good luck Tambo!

Best of luck dear !!!!!!!!!

Frustrated today! I don't know where my AH is living or working. Therefore, I might have a harder time serving him. My attorney told me that I can hire a PI. Like I have the money to do this! My AH left me with no money, no job, all bills to pay and three kids. Thank goodness I have some doors opening for me! He told his mom that he wants the house sold! I sure am glad that we don't have to deal with this issue until after the divorce! We borrowed money from his mom and let her put her name on the title and never added ours. Therefore, this is another issue. We will sell the house at a later date, give his mom back her money and split the remainder. His mom told him that she was not going to kick me and hte kids out of the house to sell it - that we needed a place to live. He is such an ASS! Doesn't call, help financially or anything, but is worried about selling the house and getting money for himself! Have I ever told you how SELFISH my AH is????? His mom thinks that he will run if I start calling around trying to find him to get him served. I beleive this may be true, but don't know of anything else to do! I can't believe that I married him! What a jerk!