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Empowered Recovery

als1969
als1969
I just wanted to post about this book. I had seen this book mentioned several times before I checked it out. My original thoughts (before I checked it out) was just what I need another stinking book about the Alcoholic and how to deal with them..but after seeing it mentioned by others several times..I looked into it and I just have to say WOW!!! This book is NOT like all the others out there...this book is for us..the nondrinker..it has helped me in so many ways already and I am not finished with it yet. I will read it many times and refer to it in moments of weakness once I am out of this situation. So..ladies..purchase this book..it really is a different book then all the rest.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I just did last night. I haven't read very far into the book yet. I hope it helps though. I have gone to Al-anon a lot of times since September. ( when my AH got out of rehab) it still has not worked. A lot of the things they have to say are great but very confusing to me. We will see what happens. Best of luck to you als1969. :)
keatamax
keatamax
I agree with you - this is the best resource I have ever found for the non-drinking spouse. Al-anon did not work for me - I just couldn't relate. I felt that the one I attended was very out of date and that people shared their stories but they had little hope things would change. This book provides tools on how to break out of codependency and move on without the alcoholic spouse. Maybe the focus of Al-anon needs to evolve to help empower the attendees in addition to being a forum to vent/share.
bean22
bean22
YES! Empowered recovery really was a new door of my awareness for my recovery. In a way, I wish it was one of the pieces of information I read first - BUT I don't think that I would have fully understood till I was ready and had been through a couple of months of Al Anon. I like how the material actually presents an OPINION on what direction you need to take. Al Anon sometimes is so grey in position it's infuriating.

I am thankful that I did not have as much religious guilt to deal with as the author did.

I also now firmly believe that if children are involved it's clear: - GET OUT.

www.empoweredrecovery.com download the pdf
deleted_user
deleted_user
I used to go to Al-Anon but did not find it helpful. I was at the stage I really needed to talk to someone about what my AH was doing to see if it was just him or normal behavior. The Al-Anon group I went to did not allow us to talk about "incidents" or to vent. We were strictly there to follow the Al-Anon steps, which are the same steps as AA. I felt that some of the steps did not pertain to me as I did not have some of the issues that alcoholics do.