After learning only a week ago that I am not going to enable his drinking anymore, AH suggested today that while our teenagers are gone this weekend, and after we get our little guy to bed, we have a fire in our fire-pit and sit outside (and drink). After my reminder that I won't drink with him, he said he didn't know if I meant "forever". Now, we had a lengthy discussion about enabling, which at the time he understood and AGREED with. Today though he argued that only kids don't drink at a bonfire (bull!) and that it wouldn't be fun to do it without alcohol. Granted, we did this in the past, and usually had a good night...but that was before I realized that he is likely NEVER going to get better as long as it's "ok" to drink "every once in awhile" (it always starts to escalate). My head is saying NO, stick to my guns. Would really love thoughts though!!!!