I am empowering myself to leave my AH of 21 yrs. I am not ready to leave just yet as we are not in danger and I have to save up some money. I am very scared of what he will do when I do leave. So do I leave him a note and go, do I talk it over with him before hand. I know if I tell him before hand that he will make promises limke before and I truly believe we are toxic for each other. Just wanted to get some thoughts on this.