Wives of Alcoholics Community Group
A forum of healing and help for wives of alcoholics.
My husband has been on a binge since last Thursday night (a week today). I have been trying to keep detached, which is easier for me in some areas than others. I have not called him or tried to find him, etc. He called me Tuesday night to see what I wanted to do and to let me know that he loves me. I told him that this was really hard on me and that I felt like he was not taking his sobriety serious enough. I told him that we were going down two different roads and that he needed and it might be best for him to get sober living on his own. I have been on this roller coaster for years. We have been together for 22 years (since I was 17 years old). We have three kids together. My heart does not want a divorce, but my head is saying how much more are you going to put up with??? I can divorce him on paper, but can I divorce him in my heart??? I absolutely HATE ALCOHOLISM!!!! Can someone give me some advice???
its their pattern..
start detaching.. emotionaly.. it will be the hardest thing u have ever done.. but in the long run .. its will be the best for u and him.. maybe that will be enough to make him fall to that bottom he needs to get to, maybe not, but it will make u stronger... u dont NEED him to be ok, u may not want to live without him.. but think about it.. are u really living With him, or u living with someone u dont really know or like?