I'm currently learning to "detach with love" as Alanon calls it. I know it's a process and it takes time to perfect it but my AH is reacting very strongly to this. I am being accused of being callous and uncaring when I refuse to engage in conversations when i know he has been drinking. I do not say anything about his drinking. I'm curious if anyone who has been through this process can share how detachment looked for them and how they experienced it.