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Amita
Amita

I don't know where to begin!  My AH has bouts of sobriety and then his anger kicks in and I can't do anything right.  He talks over me takes total control has no respect for me or other women and he thinks he's a champion of feminism! HA!  I call him out on his "oh she's a blond" BS and "they have one brain between them" shit.  He has no relationship with his abusive mother-says she's dead to him-doesn't believe in therapy but cannot seem to realize that he takes his issues with her out on my head.  I'm an educated woman and we didn't marry until I was 38 but still he tries to make all my decisions for me and cuts me down.  None of my ideas are good enough and he refuses to talk to me...At least he hasn't had a drink in 6 days?  IDK.  I just don't know anymore.  I'm a shell of the woman that I used to be and I'm getting old before my time.  


This is my first post and I'm so glad I found you.  Your posts are inspiring and I hope the Universe looks out for you all and your families. 


Peace

jms7229
jms7229
It’s so hard trying to love an alcoholic. I’ve had the worst several weeks of my life with this man and I’m at the end of my rope and heartbroken.
I wish I had some wisdom or profound thoughts but I’m defeated tonight.
I’m glad you found us. Stick around.. it’s a great group we have here.
ellabella2
ellabella2
Ugh I’m so sorry you are having to live with all of this. I feel like all the women in this group are my sisters and I hate that we all have to go thru all of this! It’s so true what you said, we become a sad shell of the strong happy women we once were. We really are robbed daily of our happiness and confidence. I’m a depressed, anxious nervous wreck everyday!! The weekends are especially hard around here. My AH comes home from work angry. I think because I’m the big meany that is keeping him from partying and having fun:/ oh well. It’s been 26 days since my AH has drank (as far as I know). It’s the longest he has gone without drinking. If he continues without drinking, I wonder if he will eventually get happier? Or will he just be grumpy forever? More than likely he will just go back to drinking unfortunately. But I just try to keep the house clean, laundry done, I take care of the kids all by myself and try not to give him any excuses to start a fight and go drink. Hang in there friend! I’m glad we all have this safe place to let our thoughts out and talk to people going thru the exact same issues as us!! Hugs!