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tlf43 02/25/2015

Simply having a rough day, emotions up and down, second guessing myself, again! He is still gone(at his enabling sisters), trying to hold my ground. He continues to blame, drink, and sees me as the cause to all of his unhappiness.

KatieDarling 02/25/2015

He has to see you as the cause of all his unhappiness; the cause of all his drinking. If he doesn't do this then he would be forced to look himself in the mirror and see the problem is him and has been all along. He isn't ready to do that and he may never be ready to do that, no one knows.

Yes, your emotions will be up and down. You may even be grieving a bit, which would be perfectly reasonable. You are doing a wonderful job holding the boundary of what is acceptable and what isn't.

I'm so sorry you are having a rough day. Big hugs. Now, what are you doing for yourself?

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