Will We Ever Stop Lighting Up? Community Group

A place for people to come and share their stories of how they have quit smoking or how they are trying to quit and the struggles they face each day OR for smokers who just dont want to quit andor not yet ready. Both are welcome here. A non-judgemental place for smokers and non-smokers alike. Please feel free to discuss any topic you wish that pertains to smoking. Smokers...

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Quitting AGAIN

2alone
2alone
Hi Y'all,
I'm back again. I'm the person who got lots of responses, because my message about quitting was so inspirational. Well, I'm sorry to tell you, I started up again, 2 days ago. Having smoked those two days last month, the thought was implanted in my head, & I though about it every so often. I'm having alot of trouble getting along with the person I'm living with, who is a control freak. I'm along way from practicing good boundaries with him, as he's my ex-husband (roommate, only), & we have so much history. Living with him is getting harder & harder, but being bipolar & on disability, I can't afford to live alone, & I can't live alone, because of suicidal tendencies. So, back to where I started. I get angry with some of the things he says or does that are hurtful, & start craving a cigarette. I was able to hold off until my beautiful grandaughter, Adalynn Taite was born last Friday, but then, I just WANTED to give in. So, I smoked my 2 packs I bought, & ran out last night. Now, I'm on the patch again, & doing well, so far. But the run-ins are real triggers for me. I'm also a recovering alcoholic, but, Lord willing, I won't go that far. If you pray, I'd appreciate your prayers, as I have some health problems that make smoking dangerous for me, plus the whole gamut of negatives that go along with smoking. Thanks, folks.
God bless.
Debi
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Debbie.
at the very least you know you want to quit and you know why
so dont get all mad at yourself and figure out the triggers that sent you in that direction and work to eliminate them
in the mean time please join the nicotine addiction suport site here on the daily strength site- these people are amazing in understanding every step that we experience and are awesome at giving good advice
give them a try and you will get more than your share of suport
good luck Debi we are with you
CarlaBent
CarlaBent
Hi, Debi!!!!
All you can do is the best you can do. You've got a lot of major stress factors going on there. Even 'good' things -- and what could be better than the birth of a grandchild!!!!!? -- can stress us out.
I can't imagine how yucky that must be to live with your ex. If he wasn't available, where would you have to live?
Can you think of any other behavior to turn to, besides smoking, for those times he angers you? Exercise, maybe? Or journaling? Journaling might be a good way of dealing with the craving even when it ISN'T brought on by anger.
Good luck!!! Slipping can be discouraging, but as long as we keep on trying, that's the main thing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY WITH US DEBI. AND ALSO I WANT TO SAY I APPRECIATE YOU TRUSTING THE GROUP ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT WE WOULD NEVER JUDGE YOU FOR SLIPPING. I'M SURE THERE ARE MANY IN HERE THAT CAN RELATE SO WELL TO YOU. I AM PRAYING THAT THE PATCHES WORK FOR YOU AND THAT THESE TRIGGERS WILL NO LONGER TRIGGER YOU TO START SMOKING AGAIN. YOU CAN DO IT! AGAIN, I THANK YOU FOR YOUR CANDIDNESS. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO MANY. AND TO ME.
FinalFantasy
FinalFantasy
I had quit for 11 years.....then after last years divorce....I started smoking again. But I'm less than a pack a day. And I started around Nov.......even though we are still friends cause of the kids...and were both fortunate to have such peace......I still smoke. So I'm making plans to stop again. Just saw this group and thought it would be nice to visit here. Thank you

~Tek Joe
2alone
2alone
Carla, Thank you for your kind & insightful response to my cry for help. To answer your question, if I didn't live with my ex, I might be able to get subsidized housing, which is cheap rent. But, I don't do well alone. Last time I was alone, I nearly killed myself twice in 1 week. (10 years ago). I could also qualify for a group home, but I hear they're horrible. You have to share a room, live with strict rules, & probably with people you can't stand. Plus, if in a group home, they take all but about $30.00 a month of your income, so I'd have to give up my car. At least, living here, I have enough money, & my own private room, which I spend alot of time in, for my privacy.

I'm aware that those are excuses, but it feels like I'm in the best of my choices now, even though we do have our awful moments. There are good times, as well, & if I get sick, he's there for me.
Hugs,
Debi
2alone
2alone
Unfortunatly, I started smoking again yesterday, & it was the day of my granddaughter's shower. She's just 2 weeks old. When she was put in my arms, she began to sneeze. I should have given her to someone else, but so longed to hold her. She seemed ok after a bit, & we had a wonderful bonding time. Later, my son approached me, & gently told me that if I'm going to smoke, please don't hold Addie, as babies are very sensitive to these things. I knew he was right, & told him I was sorry & would quit. This morning, as I was watching a gospel music DVD, God spoke to me (again) about this filthy habit, & I obeyed by, destroying 2 packes of cigarettes ($20.00). I didn't want to chance getting more addicted, & just knew it was the right thing for me to do. I've had to come to terms with what I did, & the guilt I feel. Once I prayed, just a bit ago, I was able to find forgiveness from God, & to forgive myself. I'd sure still appreciate prayers from anyone who prays. This is an ongoing battle, & I really need to quit permanently, so I can be around my grandbaby.
Thank you,
Debi