Hi dory,

I'm so sorry you are going through all of this now. I think that no matter what we do, and how we may move forward after such a loss, we always feel that loss.

I am not remarried or your age, so anything I say may be the wrong advice so I hestitate to give too much to you.

There is a different kind of board that I think may help a bit more than this one. It's called Hopeful Hearts. And it has people just like yourself, loving again after loss. they may have a better perspective, and better be able to help with these feelings you are having? If you click under groups on this main page it will come up. You may find that is better able to help?

Only thng I can ay to you is that it sounds more than normal for you to be able to love again, and also miss the love you lost, and I hope it gets easier for you.

HUGS and hope the info helped some?

Diane

Please come and join us on Hopeful Hearts. You will find several of us, life yourself, who have remarried. But we understand that you still grieve.... Today would have been my late husband's 54th birthday.

I look forward to seeing you there.

Hi, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband Cliff in 2007, and married again in 2010. My new husband is a widower (lost his wife in 2007). We both understand that there are going to be times when we will still grieve for our dead spouses, and we both feel that once a widow/widower, always a widow/widower. We arer happy with each other, but it will always be painful that our previous spouses died so unexpectedly and so young.

There is no reason you cannot belong to this board and also to the member group called Hopeful Hearts. There is also a Young Widows member group, but I don't know how active that one is.

This group, the Widows & Widowers group, is the official Daily Strength board. It was set-up by Daily Strength. Hopeful Hearts and the Young Widows groups were set-up by members here as sub-groups of this board as a way of offering additional support to bereaved spouses/partners with those particular issues. Those are monitored/administered by their founders.

I hope this helps. I am sorry you needed to be here, but I do understand, and I hope being here helps you through the rough patches.

Love and Hugs,
Martha, Community Leader

I have been a widow for almost five years. Now that I am with someone that I love and he loves me doesn't change the years I was married to my husband. There no way it could. There is no right or wrong way to go on living after a loss like we have suffered.

Some grow to be happy with the independence of being free to live as they wish without constraints. Others seek the companionship of someone to share their life with. Neither group have a guarantee of no more problems or concerns. Life is too intense to offer sunshine without clouds or rain. Feel free to message me and I hope you find support here and on hopeful hearts. Just remember we all walk the same path. Sharon

I understand not finding support as a younger widow. Been there. I have not remaried and I have 5 children. I do not see another man in myfuture, but I would be happy if you would message me and we can talk if you need to.

Maggie

I admire your courage to make a good life for yourself despite the tragedy that you have experienced.

I understand how you feel. I am 37, which I feel that is still young. Right now I am still too fresh in my grieving process (it will be only three months on Thursday) and right now I could not imagine being wtih anyone, but my late husband. However, I hope that I can get over that feeling and eventually get to a place where I can possibly find love again!! I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life...even though I'm not "alone" because my husband and I have a beautiful 5 yo daughter....but it's not the same as being in love. So I admire you that you were able to find love again!! Qucik question...how long was it before you made the decision to find love again and how long was it before you found him? Just kind of wondering how long it might take for me to be able to want to find someone to share my life with. Sorry for your loss!! Like others posted....I don't think we ever find someone to "replace" our late spouses....but to find love again doesn't mean we forget about our lost love!! I couldn't ever forget about my husband, but to be loved again someday would be nice....just not ready at this time in my life!!