You don't just move on! You let yourself flow with the emotions without letting it take control. Part of the process of getting used to the sorrow. Don't lose yourself in it though....sounds complicated? Because it is! It's never meant to be simple and streamlined. Everything you're going through is not out of character or irregular for a grieving person. All of us here have been thru the same symptoms in varying versions. No right formula in dealing with it. And it will take some time. You got oceans of tears to go and weeks of mental sorting, emotional assessing, etc, to do. Of course, that also depends on your personal resilience and your level of attachment. Hang tough, take it a day at a time and you will notice some manageable days to come soon enough... For right now, YOU should be your #1 priority. Don't get sick thru all this like I did......it amplifies all the emotions 4 folds. It's becomes even more excruciating!! Reach out to anyone if you need to talk, ok! Do not internalize anything!! Not healthy or safe!
God bless and stay strong!

My deepest condolences to you ginger13
It seems as though life is being unkind. Death has deprived you of your soulmate. Please take things one day at a time. There is no way around this horrible thing called grief. The only way is through it. This forum has really helped me and I pray it does the same for you. Stay strong. Don't be too hard on yourself. Take care!
My prayers are with you

I am so sorry about your loss! You don't just "move on". You will never get over it. You have to learn how to live with the pain. I'm no expert, because my husband died 7 weeks ago today. You will have good days and bad days. My suggestion is to try and stay with family or friends. Maybe find a support group to join (I'm in the process of trying to find one in my area). Also, find some books to read written by other widows, that helps. Sending many hugs your way!!

I feel your pain ,,,very much It is a very difficult period ,,,,do u have the feeling he is with yu at night and u are talking with Him? Maybe he is there, I had that with my husband ,,,let your room rears out,,It is very healing

Sorry mistake typos . Let your tears out

Thank you all for the encouragement. I don't feel that he is with me because he was a child of God and I know he is in a place with no more suffering. I think reading a book is a good idea. Do you have any suggestions?

Oh my I am so sorry dear. I too lost my husband on August 12, 2017. We celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary may 5th this year. We have been together for over 34 years. It was a beautiful summer day on Saturday he had been working in the yard that afternoon and decided to go for a motorcycle ride. He was gone about 5 hours he was 5 miles from home when some jerk couldn't wait to get into his driveway and he took my husband out he was dead at the site blunt force trauma. I understand completely how you must feel and how devastated to lose your husband and only 27 years old I couldn't imagine it. It's been 3 months for me and I just cry my eyes out 12 times a day I don't know if it'll ever get better. I will pray for you dear.

I am also a young widower - also 29. And yeah, it is hard and disbelief can be strong and realization of what it means can slap you in the face. It’s been about 7 weeks for me. My wife became sick a year after our now 5 year old was born. She tried very hard and did what she could to keep going, but despite her best efforts her body couldn’t keep up. Having friend and family definitely helps, but it is hard to find people that understand - not many people do. I do think it gets easier, and time helps. For now, take one moment at a time and if you feel sad or angry, don’t fight it, and if you feel joy, don’t feel guilty. That is what I tell myself at least.

Riding brought him so much joy, it was useless for me to try to get him to give it up, God knows I tried. They tell me he died on impact. I'm glad he didn't have to suffer. I'm 29 as well. We're not supposed to lose our spouses this young. Friends and family are very supportive, but even when I'm surrounded by them I still feel alone because none of them are him. I don't see how this can ever get better...

I understand, I feel alone too even when surrounded by close friends and family. We are not supposed to lose our spouses this young, and it really is unfair. I know it will get better because there is still so much to live for, despite all the pain and loss. And that is what my wife would have wanted and if things had been reverse, that is what I would have wanted for her. Nothing will ever replace them, but we can still be happy and we can still find joy. My father passed away when I was 5 years old. My mother went through what I am going through. It has been helpful to talk with her, and I have seen her go through it. Never lose hope, no matter how hard and impossible everything appears.

ginger13, arugula341 - my condolences to you both. No. it isn't fair that you and your spouses are young. Life isn't fair. It is a lonely life I know, keep your family and friends close. Keep strong. I lost my husband of 30 years 5 years ago and it isn't easy, but I keep thinking of the lovely memories we shared. One especially that only a husband and wife share. Little things like him picking roses for me out of the garden to show me how much he loved me. A task having stage four pancreatic cancer that caused him such pain to do. I know at this stage you cannot see ahead, but know how much your spouses loved you, and hold onto that. We don't understand why we have to go through such pain in our grief, but know that they are always with you. We lost our daughter at 11 years and a baby boy that was still born. We have had to cope with a lot of grief in our family and my three married children that care for me but their grief is different as a sibling and the loss of their father than that of my husband and children. There are different feelings in grief and we all grieve differently. Take it slow, do not push yourselves there is no time limit as to how you cope. It's ok to cry, to talk about them. Keep them alive in your lives, they are part and always will be part of you. I pray that you both find happiness, peace and joy in the years ahead. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you will cope but how better your life is to have known our spouses, they were special and loved as you both are. Take care and take one day at a time.

I don’t know if you still look at this post, but I came across your post and wanted to see how you were doing. Our stories sound very similar. My husband died on June 3 from a motorcycle accident. Me and our son were following in the car behind him and saw the accident. I ran up to him in time for him to take his last breath. He died from impact to his chest. He also loved riding even though it always scared me. He was 26. I miss him every moment of every day and now our son has to grow up without his amazing daddy. It just doesn’t seem real and it’s like I feel like time has stopped and just don’t know how to move forward now, I hate that we both had so little time but I try to treasure the time we did get together.

I'm so sorry you have to be on this journey too. I can't even imagine what it must have been like to see it happen. They tell me my husband died on impact as well, but I was at work when it happened. It's been 9 months so far and I can tell you it has gotten easier, but these things called grief attacks are very real. Just when I think I'm doing okay something triggers my grief and I sink back to the bottom. At least it doesn't happen as often now. And lucky for me I've been able to kind of take a break from life and just do nothing but try to adjust. This is still fresh for you, how are you handling things so far?

ginger13,
yes, I know how you feel when you are surrounded you feel the most lonely and the house is so quiet that it is deafening and when you sit or sleep you feel so empty and the pain of lost wakes you constantly.

I watch my wife of 20yrs slowly die from rare cancer and I grieved every day and it was a rough time see her get weaker and weaker, but she stays strong and fought so hard till the end.
When my father died in a truck accident the military doc told me to talk about his death and do n't hold it in or it would slowly eat at you and you will not move on and grieve. it helped me and I felt better and I watched my sister and she didn't talk about t and never has gotten over her grieve and the loss of our father.
Take your time and when ready talk about it and it will get better slowly and don't stay in the darkness we go into....you have plenty of years left to see out and also your son needs you even more now.

Mal