I have a question for those out there. Ryan was sick for a long time and during the last year I had intermittent family leave as well as continuous leave (FMLA). He died 12/26/14 and I think I was back to work on 01/12/15. This is after three years of battling cancer with him. He started to really get bad in August of 2014 and that was when I had to start depending on his parents to come and sit with him and make sure he ate and got the meds he needed, that he didn't run a fever or something like that. And since I had this weird feeling I wouldn't hear him if I slept in our bedroom I was sleeping on the couch by his chair so every time he was up I was up. I was working maybe four days a week then between doctors appointments and Ryan maybe running a fever or vomiting all night I didn't feel like I could leave him. So long story short I was pretty much running on empty by the time he passed. I think I slept for two whole days after. Now four months later I got called on some of my "errors" that I have been making at work, nothing serious that can't be fixed but enough that my work is not at the standard that it was before for my boss to notice it. He actually asked if something was wrong.... um yes, My husband died about four months ago, I came back to work from basically being gone since August, I had to start looking for a new house because my in-laws were pushing me out of my current home, I moved to a new house, and oh yeah did I tell you my husband died 4 months ago..... Anyways I was just wondering if anyone went on FMLA after a spouse passed and if so what did you do with your time? I am seriously considering doing this, I can see it in myself that I am starting to shut down. I don't feel like I have even had the actual time to grieve that I should have gotten and my therapist thinks my major meltdown will come one day while I am going thru the boxes in my new home and putting things away. I am purposely leaving going thru some of his stuff for last but I need to work but I don't know if maybe I need some time for an extensive therapy sessions or what because as of right now I really have no PTO and I am constantly having to make up hours to go to sessions since their last appointments are at 4. Any suggestions?
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