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Wish he was here to celebrate

lovesloons
lovesloons

My granddaughter graduated from 6th grade last night and wish my husband was there to celebrate with us.  Every milestone she achieves is special because at age 2 she was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia and a week later my husband diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.  They went through chemotherapy together, became bald together, and both endured many painful procedures.  Tonight my granddaughter is alive, thriving and is 11, a leukemia survivor, but alas John passed after 9 months.  They bonded together over cancer, facing death, one passed, one survived.  I hope John was looking down over us, smiling as he watched Abby cross the stage for her graduation, alive, a survivor.  Sometimes I think John knew if God wanted another soul in heaven, he would go and have Abby stay.  I hope John is able to see Abby thriving, laughing, just being a normal young lady and I know John would be so proud.  Wish he was here to celebrate Abby's life and future.  We miss him and love him so much.  Til we meet again. 

Community Leadercliffskat
cliffskat
My younger son is autistic and was a senior in high school when Cliff died. It was a tough time for all of us, we'd had to struggle to get him in the right classes, etc., and then I had to finish the job on my own. Graduation day was 6 months after Cliff died. I cried through the entire ceremony - boy did I get weird looks! But when our son crossed the stage to get his diploma Magna cum Laude and his classmates gave him a standing ovation, I could hear Cliff in my head, jumping up and down cheering him, too. It was a triumphant moment for us, but bittersweet because Cliff was there in spirit, not in person.

I do understand what it meant to you and yours. Congrats on Abby's perseverance and success. At least her Grandad had the best seat in the house. That's the way I finally looked at it.

Love and Big Hugs,
Martha
cupolatte
cupolatte
What a wonderfully close relationship that must have been for them! I am so glad that you have your granddaughter and that she is thriving. I know how you feel about him "missing out" on these life events with your family. I am glad you are there for them. God bless you and your family.