I don’t know that the feelings go away; they just get “different.”

At four months out, I’m trying my best to stay focused on living a life that will honor my beloved husband Charles’ memory. He fought hard until the bitter end to spend as much time with me as possible. Now it’s my turn to not squander whatever precious time I have left on earth until we are rejoined in our everlasting heavenly home.

I’m sure Glenda would not want your children and grandchildren to suffer the horrific loss of both of you.

I hope you can find daily strength here and wherever else so that you may push on.

Hang in there ...

For me,it is like bits and pieces of you come back and leave and come back and then there's this other person here too. It takes time to cope with a loss of this, Everything i knew and was is gone.Some bits come back though it just takes time to cope...for me i want to try and get to know the new me cause i feel like i have only half left.I knew my husband was dying and yet did not want to accept it as it was too much to.When he did i had totally lost it but am trying hard to pick up the pieces. I Breathe alot and try to empty my mind..look up at the stars and the trees..try and watch nature cause i want to think Earth is my Mother .(Hugs)

Hi Rick51.
I know how you feel after I lost my husband just after our 30th wedding anniversary. You live one day at a time. You just find strength to keep going. In my case for my children. You just learn to cope. Each day is different, ups and downs and after nearly 5 years without my husband, I must say I have learnt to just somehow cope. I still have bad days and I know I always will. The tears are only under the surface. Keeping busy and staying strong. I hope you find a way to cope. We are not meant to be able to just move on, we can't. Our lives have changed forever.

An article I re-posted (not written by me) previously.
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/widows-widowers/discussion/no-one-tells-you-this-about-loss-so-i-will

Thank you all for your kind and supportive words and thoughts.

I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Honesty and understanding each other's expectations are very central to an honest and trusting relationship. I've been married to a wonderful woman for 35 years. Your post doesn't give a lot of details. Have you spoken with a counselor, pastor or minister that can offer you wise and long-term, effective advise? I'll pray and stand with you that the answers you seek will come quickly and peace will reign in your heart and mind.

Thx RickR. I'm agnostic so a pastor or minister are out. I counselled others in Psychiatry for 39 yrs. so I'm pretty sure that's out to. I will rely on my son's and myself, once I find myself that is.

I fell in love with my high school sweetheart, married 40 years and loved each other more every day. Had our challenge, but worked through it together. After 4 years found a wonderful man who laughs and loves. Spent 7 years with him and lost Him to cardiac arrest 3 days ago. Feeling sad but blessed

My condolences Sharon. (((Gentle hugs)))

So very sorry Sharon. Deepest sympathy and hugs to you.