If it helps, stomping and whining are a fine way to let off steam. Just be careful of your toes. Ouch!

You have had a few tough days - and experiences. Sending you big hugs and hoping the dogs get along, your mom feels better, and your toes stop hurting!!

Oh Mary, it's OK.....Just keep Venting here.....We All know exactly,
How you feel. One day ok the next day horrible!! All normal.
You have al lot on your plate....when do you start your time off?
I hope it's soon....you need it for YOU.
take care of yourself, see what tomorrow brings,
Peaceful goodnight,
Sandra

my time off isn't in a chunck, I'm going to work 4 day work weeks for a while with a long weekend for memorial day (2 days on each end of the weekend) and then some more 4 day weeks. I'm just finding that 5 days is just too much for right now. Not working is not an option so I'm going to stretch my v-time out like this. I took Wednesdays, so 2 on and then 1 on, 2 on 2 off (weekend) and repeat. I so hope I can make it work.

I punched the bathroom wall today - twice...so stomp as much as you can if it helps...hugs, wendi

Can you kennel her dog? Or maybe get tranquilizers from the vet so it stops being such a terror?

Remember that not everything needs to be done right away, either. You can always do your dishes by hand for a few days, and the stone is not going anywhere so the mason doesn't have to be done in a hurry. It was two years before I had Cliff's stone in place. Just trying to say don't make this harder on yourself unnecessarily. You are important in all of this, too!

Love and Big Hugs,
Martha

Pour me another drink! LOL You triggered that thought with your whine and wine. I think AA has a slogan Poor Poor Me, Pour me another drink. Probably a good thing you're not a drinker right now!

So sorry to hear your mother has had a bit of a relapse in her convalescence. Physical healing (as I'm learning) is much like the grief journey. It takes time, and we don't heal overnight. Some days are better than others. It's only been a few days since her surgery, so I can relate to her having a bit of extra pain. They are probably starting to reduce the pain meds, or her body is acclimating to them. I finally got off of mine entirely (by choice) as I felt the side effects weren't worth the benefit. Glad I did. I felt some extra pain for a little while, but it's become manageable now. I'm sure they'll get your mom's back under control soon.

Sorry to hear about the extra effort you'll have to put in with the dogs. They can be a handful. I have three large ones. Please be careful that they don't trip you getting down the stairs with your broken toe. BTW, I think you mentioned before that you weren't seeing the doc for this? All they would do is tape the broken one to another to keep it immobile. You might try this? (This is NOT medical advice, I am not a medical professional). LOL Always gotta cover ourselves, eh?

Stomp on your good foot and slam some doors!! It's okay to revert to childish behavior in times like this!!

Hugs, D

Oh, I know this feeling too well. Stomp and swear, we understand. But Martha is right. Simplify. Everything does not have to be done right now. Headstones, funerals, memorial services, all of these things are for the living not the dead. Unless it is truly bothering you, it can wait. Maybe you can find another sitter for the dog? And I hate to admit this but the first three months after J.R died I ate from paper plates with plastic forks and knives because I just didn't care and I wasn't eating that much anyway. No pile up of dishes, just take out the trash.

Take care of self!
Hugs,
Val

This is what I mean when I say "life gets in the way", grief somehow finds itself on a back burner as we go about the things we must face. Funny, before my husband's death when life happened I took my whine with wine after his passing I didn't touch wine though I did cry.

Dayna, you are correct about the toes....unless there is disfigurement in the toe, just tape it to the next one....if it is an odd shape you need to see the doc.

Prop your foot up when you are able and a nice frozen bad of peas will help with swelling.

maryel....hope you are better today and let the small stuff go....eat on paper plates as Martha suggested. The stone will get engraved when it does....I have let so much go around here it isn't even funny, and you know what, I am ok with all of it.

Jennifer