When does it end?

Well because of the love shared, it only changes. It takes awhile to undo the "two being one", then learning to be "one" again.

Read a Unique and Devastating loss, by wifeless. It explains a lot. It was my "AHA" moment when I came here at 10 months.

You are also in the dreaded "acceptance" beginning. My heart to you, these are rough waters.

We can be your support, "water wings" in it for you. Waves will gradually get smaller, but it takes awhile. The love doesn't, it becomes sweeter

There is no magic time measurement.

Gentle hugs, Jewells

There will always be little things that will set you back for a time. As you become more healed the duration and severity will lessen.

It's been four months since my wife died, but 17 years since my daughter died. And although it's been 17 years there are still some songs that come on the radio that will send me back to the days when she died in the accident. But it's only for moments.

I remember that we had a cruise with friends, already paid for, for a month after our daughter died. We took it because we were going with our closest friends. On that cruise, at the blackjack table I mentioned to this lady that my daughter had just died. She looked at me, knowingly, and said "you have to let them go". She had lost a daughter 10 years earlier. It seemed impossible to consider that, but there was wisdom that only comes with experience.

I still think about my daughter, and I still think about my wife, but we must learn to function without them, and we will.

It's turning the corner of six months for me. Seems that if we aren't actively thinking about it (and we usually are), someone is reminding us. My husband was the local handy man and touched many lives. One literally cannot go anywhere here in the hood and not see something he built, repaired, carved, etc. Plus I have all the reminders at my own house. I've reached a certain level of 'coping' and have not gone beyond it to see any end or hope in sight. If we all lived closer we could meet for tea.

Some days I think you will feel like if you could just get by the day without someone asking then that may be a good day, then there may be days when all you want is someone to talk to you about your loss. I can say for myself I wanted people to talk or to ask. At least for the most part. It makes me feel better knowing I can discuss my feelings. Sending you a (((hug)))) and prayers!! God bless Susan

Big Hugs!!!! to all of you. Having a support group that truly knows what you're going through is so comforting. Thank you.

Jewels1 I just read Unique and Devastating loss and that was the first thing that I had read that says exactly how I feel. I printed and will read often to remind me I'm not going nuts but others feel the same way.

We had been married for 38 years and have 4 grandchildren. The youngest is 3 1/2 and is constantly asking if Poppy is coming home. My husband traveled quite a bit for work so it was not unusual for him to be gone for days but no matter how hard we try to explain it to him he still expects him to walk in. I wish he could.

Thank you all !!