Dear friend . . I see you are in Australia, and I am not familiar with your laws there regarding spreading of the ashes. My J was a golfer and I sent his ashes with his friends to Florida for his memorial golf event. They were able to spread across all 18 holes . . and drank themselves silly at the 19th, I'm sure. I wasn't present, but I knew this was what he would have wanted and it gave his friends a measure of peace along with a chance to say their own "good-byes". For me it was a selfless gesture . . I simply did what I thought J would have liked. Saying this, have you asked yourself what your hubby would have liked? This might bring the answers you seek. In any event, I'm so sorry for your loss and wish you and yours much peace in the decision(s) to come regarding his remains. Gentle hug, D

My husband was cremated too. However that is not my choice. I have his urn with me and when I go he will be placed with me. Have you thought of maybe having them mixed when the time comes? Not trying to be morbid, but I know many people have their headstones and plot picked out ahead of time, but they are still here. If you find comfort in having his ashes with you now, why change that? I don't know why you would have to make that decision now. Just a thought! Hugs to you, Michele

There was a big discussion just yesterday in my other widow group about this very issue, and the general consensus was, to hang onto them until you are absolutely sure about what to do with them. Take your time deciding...there should be no pressure.
I have my husband's ashes on a table in the living room, where they will stay until it's my turn..at that point, I want my ashes blended with his, and scattered along the beach where we met, and on the anniversary of when we met there.

I lost my wife over a year ago. It was a sudden death but we did talk about it a little. She said she wanted to be cremated but there was no talk of what to do with her ashes. It being a sudden death we never got around to talk about it. So I have her "main" ashes in an urn and then the funeral home gave me another small container with some more ashes. What I did was spread some at her favorite playground when she was little, at the college she went to because she loved those years and some in Napa Valley, California because she loved that area although we live in Chicago, or I just do now.
Here is a thought and I have thought a lot about this. I have her urn and when I die I am going to put in my papers that I want to be buried in a plot (I don't want to be cremated) and then her urn will be put on top of my casket before they fill it in. Then we will have a stone with both of our names on it. I think that is best because if I don't bury her urn when I die my kids will get it and then when they die their kids will get it. How many decades will go by before her urn ends up in some closet and people will say "who was that lady"? I want her ashes buried with a stone for everyone to see 60 years from now her name. That's what I would do if I were you, get a place with a permanent plague so Craig's name will be there 100 years from now. Just my opinion, just throwing that out

I buried Bob's ashes right outside my bedroom window! We believe Jesus will come back soon and take believers to heaven. That way when he rises from the grave, I'll be close by and we can rise up together! It bring me much peace and hope. Since I know he is in heaven, his body was like an earth suit! It isn't creepy to me to have the ashes outside my window. That's how we deal with it!

i scattered his remains at 5 months. Because he left instructions i didm't have to make any decisions about it. We did it on fathers day. I think you have to be ready. I didn't read up on the laws of my country so not sure if where we placed them was legal but it was what he wanted. Big hug. Patti

thanks cottage...That sounds good...

My husband was adimit about being cremated. He worked in Cemetaries as a teen and hated how things were done. I took every chance I could to confirm his wishes. When we went to other services I would ask what he thought of certain things and that would start the conversation he hated having. Anyway I bought plots for us. He is there now and I will be there when its my turn. I have since started looking into a Will so my kids know how things are to be done when Im gone because the guessing and wondering when you are in a state of shock is tremendous.

I wear a locket around my neck with some of my fiance's ashes in it. This brings me great comfort to know that part of him is always with me.

I have my husbands remains in an urn by a cross in our pasture. I love it, right here with me by the animals.

It's 5 months today that my husband passed. We did talk about cremation and that is what his wish was. He died suddenly and I was not expecting to have to deal with this so soon. I have the majority of his ashes in a picture urn in my den. I also have a collage of pictures of him with all the kids and him when he was younger and when we were married. It's my place to go when I am sad, which is everyday. It does give me comfort having his remains with me. I did spread some ashes in the bay where he fished and also in our garden.