Happy for you that you have found love again! You have to do what feels right for you. I think I would keep a few favorite items that your son may like in the future and donate the rest. Good luck! ((Hugs))

I kept my husbands clothes as well hoping my son would like them. They were too small and out of date. I lugged them across the country as well . I would say keep a favorite coat or shirt possibly for him. I still have my husbands swede jacket hung up in my closet after 43 years just because it reminds me of him but our son is too big for it and never wanted it. From the 70's. Take care.

Thanks Veronica :)

Shelda that's a great idea! I too have his favorite coat & I never thought about the clothes being out of date. Thank you :)

The clothes are likely out of date. As thrifty as I am - I still don't buy second hand shoes. That being said:

If there are some casual clothes that don't look too dated, and still in presentable shape, I know there's a clothes closet near me. Flannel shirts, sweatshirts, jeans don't go out of style, do they?
All the usual suspects [Salvation Army, Goodwill] are generally not accepting donations. They're overwhelmed with clothes, and those are mostly sold by the ton to be recycled into cleaning rags.

Maybe ask a seamstress to make a pillow sham or cover for a throw pillow backed with one of his favorite shirts? or even a *lining* for the pillow sham, so it's there, but you're not looking at it all the time.

Sachets cam be kind of girly, but made from an old shirt and filled with cedar chips or balsam fir instead of lavender would suit a boy's drawer.

I made two baby quilts from my husbands ties for the two grandsons who were born after my husbands passing. I made three quilts for my two daughters from his shirts. I donated all his new never worn shirts and kept his favorite coat, suits, riding jacket and boots. I made a top for myself with his tuxedo shirt. Gave away a lot of things to his brother.

My husband died almost 27 years ago and that is something we all need to deal with-but I managed to give the clothes to a thrift store and a church clothing drive. But I still have his wallet, his glasses and a few other thing, and that certainly includes some of his ashes,-the undertaker told me they could bury most in a National Cemetery ( he was a veteran) and gave me a small pouch of some of them.What I still have is all of his after shave colognes.They still smell like they did when he was here.And I kept a few of his shirts-just a few.
He was an organ donor and that gave me some piece of mind.

I made memory blanket from his clothing and t-shirts and after 8 years , still working on a quilt for myself.
Recently I became a grandma for the first time and got to meet her this last week. I made a teddy bear that she loves.

Hi, it is a great happiness that you have found love and your life is getting better, congratulations. And you should choose your favorite things, and I do not think your son will need all of them. My father also died, and my mother left a lot of his stuff for me, but they were not helpful. My father was a real fashionista and ordered things from https://ootdadvisor.com/en/ . Now I wear his clothes and am amazed at his excellent taste. When I put on my father's something, I feel his support and that my father is always there for me.

After grieving the loss of my beloved husband John for 12 years, I finally gave some of his shirts, jackets to our local church. I came across a box with his false teeth, brush, meds, bandages, etc. Something clicked in my head, asked myself why on earth am I saving these things. No one in the family would want any of it and probably think I was a bid daft to save them. I tossed them and other personal items away and you know I feel a burden lifted off my shoulders. I perhaps carried his stuff like baggage and feel relieved it's gone. I know it's a bit weird of me but should have done it a long time ago. Everybody on here is different but I carry John in my heart always.....not his false teeth. Ok that made me chuckle. Do what you feel is best for you to move on. Take care, Jan.