i regret posting this, this sort of post is probably better suited to a journal, oh well

Pls do not feel bad for posting this...you needed to get it out. i do not think it is a bad idea. Just because you get a group started does not mean that you have to have all the answers. If there is enough interest let them know where you are and that this group (like this site) is there to support each other, walk with each other through this journey. Best wishes.

Squeege - no apologies - I think this is the perfect place to ask this question.

I think there is a way to go ahead with the group. I would keep it low-key -- make it more or less a meet-up type group. Get together for coffee or a pint. The organizational part of it I would keep simple. You will need to decide how often - maybe every other week? Where and when to meet - restaurant on a Friday or Saturday maybe? And you might want to add a topic to throw out for conversation. That could be very loose - we're NOT talking making up charts or handout pamphlets or any of that. Just say, "This week I have been thinking a lot about -- X topic (for example: shopping alone). I am finding that hard - what about you?" And let it flow from there.

You could do it through meetup.com and I think there are how-tos on the site to do that.

So my vote is a YES but with conditions. You are not in a position to take on too much responsibility and detail tracking at this point, but if you set it up simply, I think it's a great idea. If it falls flat, you won't have lost anything except some time, right? If it works, that would be great.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I think it is a great idea I myself have thought of doing the same thing...I believe that thru helping others we also are helping ourselves
Best of luck
Susie

I think its a good idea and commend you for doing it. I don't think it will hurt you or cause you more pain I think it can only help. I would go to one around here if there was one and I would also start one but just don't have the time as I drive truck all over Canada and the U.S. so I'm only home once every 2 or 3 weeks for about 5 days. Good luck with it and stay strong.

Hi, Squeege. I think it's a great idea -- people helping people benefits everybody. I like Martha's ideas and think they may protect you from taking on more than you are comfortable with.
Best wishes,
Alice

Solid idea. If it's not too hard on you I say move forward with it. Good luck!

I also think that this a great idea. I agree with cliffskat suggestions.
Once it has started, have people take turns organizing the sessions.
That way you do not have to take all the responsibility. This group could help you and many more people in your area. Try it if you find that it takes up to much time then you can leave the group.

I also think its a good idea to be with other people in the same situation. You can help each other get through the pain. Also find some new friends. Go for it!

I think you have a great idea, but I'd also follow Cliffskat's recommendations. There is not a single group devoted to spousal grief in my area. There is one for parents who have lost children, but nothing for adults who have lost their spouses. I have toyed with the idea of starting one here as well.

I think it is a great idea. I tried to one here, but no one was interested in this area..... YES!!!!!!!

I definitely vote YES. It is a good idea and Martha's suggestion very wise. If I had the guts I would start one here, in the borough where I live. I do go to meetup and in fact I am going to one in a few days but this one is about debating economics and philosophical concepts, but I will speak to the meetup organiser about it and get a few ideas.

I am sure it will be beneficial to you and others. Tell us if you do.

Big hug to you.

i was so sure that people would think it was too early in the grief process to do this that i cancelled it. After reading these msg's though iv'e reopened it and am ready to go. Thankyou all for your insight :) I really value and respect all here.
Even if it dosn't work out I'm going to try