The single best thing I ddi for myself was to go to a widow/widowers get together arrainged by some people on this site. It was so very healing to be with people who understand, who you don't have to explain to and who understands if you get weepy. I have friends outside of this group and I have blood family but my family that was created thru the worst possible thing that could have happened to anyone is who I count on for understanding and support.
I would suggest checking to see if anyone on this site is from your area, but if you post about wanting to get together I am sure you will get a responce.
The first get together I went to was in Iowa and was originally thought to be a local gathering. Instead there were people from Florida, Oklahoma, Maine, Canada,Michigan, Missouri, Kansas, Minnesota, Idaho, Washington State and I know I am missing some.
I hope this helps with your question.
Have a peaceful day
Cathy

That's sounds like a good idea, as support groups are hard to come by. Sooo if there is anyone in my area that would like to get together that would be nice. I don't know how to go about it, if anyone else does please tell us how.

I'd love a get together, but I'm in Florida and don't drive far.

Back to the topic........
I think we just get used to being alone or find new things or friends to fill our time.
You are very lucky violet, you have a job, & friends to go place with.
I did the support groups and no one wants to do anything, I'm 20 miles from anywhere and that's about as far as I care to drive.There are no jobs here ...........especially for the senior type.
So days I just don't know what to do, and have no one to do it with.
That's why I got a dog.
Yes, we are just alone.

Once you get comfortable being alone, you will find things to get out and busy with. Maybe that doesn't make sense, but it is how it worked for me. As long as I fought the lonliness it was unbearable. In time I learned to embrace it whether I used it to play online, read a book, or just think about me and what I want, it seemed to change. I was never not busy, my entire life with working, a family, and friends to go with, so it was a hard adjustment. I think it ended up better, because I now can just be and not have to be constantly going or doing. I guess its a balancing act. Sharon

I guess I figured I just had to get used to being alone too. My kids will soon move out and I just assume once they do they will have an active life of their own and no room for mom, so it would be just me and the Boston Terriers. So I figured to do a lot of walking the dogs.

I guess I really should look into joining some clubs or something, the rest of my life sounds boring.

I don't feel that way now but I wonder how I will feel years down the road when my kids are grown/in college and the nest is empty. I wonder how things will be when my dad is gone. There will be that point where I will be alone.

Maggie

Since my kids are already adults that time for me is coming sooner rather than later and since the last 20 yrs has been wrapped up in doing sports and dance and I had no life of my own, well it is time to make a life of my own or I may be very sorry very soon, as I am lonely enough as it is.