Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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We are all the same

violet1213
violet1213
i know we are all the same on this site all lost the loves of our lives, all grieving, all scared, sad, lonely, tired, angry, some of us young some of us older. If I know all this why do I feel like I'm the only one? So isolated, so alone?
penntehe63
penntehe63
I think we've all felt "isolated, alone" at some time, or even each day. But if you just take one minute or hour at a time, your feelings may change. Have you thought of seeing a Grief Counselor? I'm at 18 months, and recently started sessions with a counselor. There should be an in-person Support Group that meets locally in your area? Check with the local Hospice or Hospital to see if they have such a group.
Please try to keep the faith that things will get better, it will never be "the same" as life was with your beloved, but you will manage to get through these sad days. Reach out to others for support. And come here to simply read the Posts, they can be just what you need to read at that moment.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Violet,I know what you mean, its exactly how I feel...I believe its because grieving is an affair of "YOUR" heart, no one elses. yes we are here for each other to give words of encouragement, which is essential to the healing process but the true journey is YOURS to take. The journey of the rest of our lives, the everyday, the every new moment that is born into our days is created by our decisions without the help (or so we think) of our loved ones. No matter how much our family loves us, our friends love us or everyone here at DS loves us, it is we who have to make the choices that will bring us to a different life, a life none of us want to face right now. Its a scary and lonely time for us all and we need to respect that feeling and know that one day in the future we will see the light we need to guide us. God Bless you in your journey. Hugs Bernard
goldenearrings
goldenearrings
When you consider all you lost..............it is no wonder you,we, feel all alone................we have lost much more than a husband. or wife...........................have lost a friend, lover,soulmate,helper,partner.............could go on and on..................it is a personal thing and even though you realize there are many experiencing a loss, ....................you are dealing with your loss...............someone told me that every marriage ends in death or divorce...................it didn't exactly help, but it gave me something to think about.........