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Mas63
Mas63

Hey everyone,


andrew and i used to love going to Costco or Sams club. We would cruise the aisles and he would throw the dumbest stuff into the cart. It was a happy occasion. The first time i went to Costco after his death, it was an experience that put my solitude right in my face. Costco is for couples, families, people who need bulk stuff. It's a reminder of what i no longer have. It has turned my "we" experience into an "I" experience. I now have to ask myself, "do i need 24 rolls of toilet paper", do I need 48 eggs, do i need 5lbs of olives".It made me very depressed and i stopped going. Flash forward to now. I went into Sams yesterday and I was ok with the fact that this store screams "i got people at home" because even though i dont, i still bought  24 rolls of toilet paper, bulk bottles of water and a 12 piece box of breakfast sandwiches. It's simply cheaper to buy bulk and eventually, i will use all of the above.  So, bring on the gigantic bag of popcorn, i got this. Just wanted to share.

lostmytruelove
lostmytruelove
Mas63, my husband Ross and I used to do the exact same thing. We always said we were only going in for what we needed and yet somehow we ended up with way more in the cart than intended (he was good at spending money lol). I too recently went into Sam's club with my niece and felt the same despair as I walked around and decided that since I hardly eat anything since he died (2 months ago on the 14th) that I couldn't possibly need to buy anything but the protein drinks that I manage to choke down a few times a day. I hope one day that I will be like you and be able to go back in and see that it will be ok. Thanks for sharing.
Rick51
Rick51
Glenda and I went to Costco on a regular basis. She made a bee line for the jewelry counter, and next the clothes. I have suitcases of Costco clothes much of them with tags still on. Of course, in each department a chat with her favorite employee's . I miss those days.
Sophia2002
Sophia2002
I dread my solitary trips to Costco and although I have the teens still and need to buy the bulk items. Going alone feels awful. I make my sister or daughter go with me.
Mas63
Mas63
Thank you guys sharing. BTW, the breakfast sandwiches are awesome. I wish i cooked more but i really don't make the effort just for me. Lazy, i guess.
beautyfromashes
beautyfromashes
My husband loved to tag along to the store. I hate going without him.
Rockymountainmama
Rockymountainmama
My husband was the same. Most men complain about shopping. Neither my husband or myself are... were "big shoppers". But whenever we were at the grocery store or Costco he'd do the thing with throwing dumb things in the cart and always making me and the girls laugh, pushing them around the aisles super fast. My husband actually managed a local ski shop. His best friend who was in the accident with him owns it. He manages it now. It took me awhile before I could even go into it.