Joe, its been 3 years for me and I still find myself crying unexpectedly. Sometimes I will feel myself getting depressed and I will stop and think about it and it could be something like the 5th of the month...the day he died...it could be the end of the month...when he went to hospital for the last time. November because that was his birthday month. April because that was when we met and began our love affair. Holidays. Someone saying something the way he would have said it. A profile similar to his. TV can set me off because there are endless couples or an actor will say something stupid and I could just imagine what Don would say if he were listening to it. Joe, there is nothing wrong with you. Read posts from others here. You will be reassured that maybe you are losing it but its ok, your entitled. You are among friends here who can relate. I am sending you a mental hug and a back rub.

3 years here... just when you least expect it, for no triggers either. sandee

Always for no reason....I just can't believe how much more emotional I have become since he is gone...

No your not losing it as I believe you are questioning. You are releasing you sadness and pain. Tears are good in our lives at this time. Grief will not be ignored. The more we try to bury it the harder it grows. Keeping busy is a common way to attempt to avoid the feelings, but it will only postpone the strong feelings to appear. Grief must be dealt with and we must force ourself through it rather than around it. Feeling the pain is an important part of dealing with the pain and dealing with it will bring you to the place of finding a sense of peace in what you now suffer from.

I lost my precious husband in 2007. He was my first love and high school sweetheart. I cried my life was over and found I have a strength I never knew I could find without him. Hugs to you all. Sharon

Joe, in those early months I was always afraid I was losing it (going crazy). Grief does things to us that we've never dealt with before. I don't know how many times I would have to pull over in my car because the sobbing would hit out of nowhere. It's really okay to be down. It might be that you've been trying so hard to hold up that the pent up emotions just broke out. Crying is good for healing. You're grieving. These kinds of things are a part of the nightmare of grief. I'm sorry. I hope you have a better rest of the night.
Wishing you peace,
Linda

Maybe it's just a built up of sadness, maybe it is just a moment - I had a rough week leading up to Valentine's day. Had a good cry, and felt instantly better once that day has passed.

going on 16 months... happens all the time, sometimes its almost as overwhelming as the moment she died...
Welcome to the rollercoaster...
hugs

Yup, 2 years...I call them microbursts...

Joe, there is no right or wrong, in grieving, no one knows sometimes what our triggers are. There's been time Im just sitting and all of a sudden, seans face pops in and i start balling. Its all perfectly normal, and you will never not be affected in some way of your special soulmate.wife dying. With time, the waves are further apart, so you have a little more time to breathe, but it never takes away from the fact that your soulmate is, no more. It just allows for more acceptance of the fact that they are not physically here with us anymore. Your just perfect in how your feeling, and NO your not losing it. Much love and big hugs carla

No--you are fine. It has a name--"grief attack." Seriously, there are a host of really weird symptoms you will probably go through. The scariest one for me was the impairment of my short term memory--that lasted for a full year. Horrifying!!!!

Hey Joe,
In this situation it's normal. Your not crazy just hurting for her. A couple of weekends ago I felt it coming. Sunday night rolled around and I found myself calling off work could not go in. The next morning I called in again, I could tell that night would not be any better. After a couple of days the pain lessened but still there. I don't cry as often but it is still just as intense. Your hurt has to mourn sometimes. Mostly without notification. I haven't cried out loud like this since I was a kid. That's not a macho thing, I cried but I mean balling and squalling as we call it in the south. After it's over somehow that release helps. Almost like a purging of sorts. Then I continue to pray for strength and I will for us all.
Peace, Tim