Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My Dad is a wonderful man of God and he always manages to say what is right in any given situation. He is an elder of twenty years in his church and is about to retire from this role as he is nearly eighty now. Please bear with me. I'm not preaching Christianity, although that is my faith. It's been two years since my husband died after an 18 month battle with pancreatic cancer and I know my husband had many conversations with my father that he didn't have with me while he was I'll. I see my parents at least three times a week but today my Dad said just what I wanted to hear. He said "hen " (Scottish) I've never seen anyone in my years of ministry show so much dignity and humility whilst in so much pain. Michael started of fighting this terrible illness even though we both knew that his survival was very limited but he did everything to make sure he could stay with me as long as possible. I want someone to talk about how strong my husband was during this nightmare instead of retreating into their own grief and making excuses about the way they are now. I am glad my Dad told me that today. My beautiful Michael is a hero and he is in glory now with his saviour.
Always bask in that love for strength and guidance...
Hugs
Darcie
I agree.....my husband Ben, was a warrior and fought his battle to live,
To be with me, our children and grandchildren.
I have always recognized Ben as My Hero. What a blessing to know,
he is now out of pain and with his Saviour.
I'm so happy for your peace Gail......thanks for your post......love from Sandra
Their memorie lives on thru us.
Althoug I hurt missing Lyn I would not bring her back to the pains of this world. She also suffered years of pain without much complaint.
I believe we were all truely blessed to have had these remarkable people in our lives. Take care.
Peace, TIm
It took me time to get to the point of acknowledging the loss and accepting what feels so unacceptable for so long. Was it fair? No!
But it was reality and unchangeable. At that point the choice is ours. Grieve. Struggle. Cry. Be angry. All important to feel. In your own time you also must accept and re-identify who you are and where you go from here. Sharon
But, I see it in a different way now, and I agree with everyone here who is thankful that our Beloved are no longer in the never-ending pain that they were in here on earth.
Do I want to turn back the clock, and bring Marylou back home...with all the unbearable pain she suffered, all-the-time? Put her into agony just so I can be selfish and have her for me?
Hell-no! I would rather have her when she visits me in Spirit...and looks just like she does in a portrait she did about 30, at her healthiest and most beautiful.
And I will just have to try to live a life that will allow me to one day catch up to her, in the same way.