It's a funny thing, if you believe in eternal life then the amount of time we are alive on this earth is like a nanosecond of the total time ( yeah, ok, as a scientist even 100 years divided by infinity is zero ).

The problem for all of us reading this forum right now is that we can only deal with that nanosecond, so it is difficult.

I fully agree that there is not only comfort, but strength and assistance, in a religious perspective.

Someone humorously posted that she was not on speaking terms with God right now, but that is ok, God can take it. When you least expect it, God will carry your non-speaking-to-God self past the hardest parts.

Humor and Prayer are the mainstays of survival in this nanosecond world. Peace, Hugs, Blessings.....sometimes birthdays and holidays can be tough days. If it wasn't for God walking with me, listening to my anger/disappointment, and giving me moments in nature that remind me He is here....I would not be here.

First of all mel wishing you a sense of peace on this very special day. I consider myself a very spiritual person but God and I had major disagreements in the early parts of this journey. I always trusted and surrendered myself to him but I let him know in no uncertain terms how deeply hurt I was. I have come full circle and find strength and peace in my faith. I fell deeply in love with my wife by the 2nd date.(I was a very cautious person. Totally unlike me). I beleive with my heart God allowed us to meet, fall in love and share a life together. For that and many other things I will always be grateful. I also beleive even though my wife doesnt belong to me she will be the one to greet me when I am called.
No preaching intended here. Those beleifs give me great comfort.
Gerald

Mel40, of course you are right. Religions of all faiths have the same basic end in store for all of us.
For me right now I only see one set of footprints in the sand.
Beat Regards, George

Mel--thank you for posting this reminder...it was timely. My thoughts and prayers go out to you today...I know days like his birthday can be tough.

Chris' birthday was in August and I posted something not exactly the same but similar...that his death was not about me...even though the loss and pain make it seem like it is about me...what it really is about is Chris' relationship with God and God's promise to one day take Chris home to heaven. God's timing is not ours...nor are His ways our ways...so even though I feel it was too soon...it was God's timing to take Chris home. And you are right, our husbands were just gifts God allowed us to have for a period of time...but they were always ultimately HIS. Thanks again for the reminder. God bless.

Mel
Sending you a (((hug))) on this special day. Our lives changed so much when our spouses past away. I have always said that God sent Richard into my life when I needed him, and when it was time for him to leave God also had a plan. We all have our moments and ask why, but I also feel that is the human part of us. Deep down, our religious part knows that God is in control, and he will see us through.
God Bless Susan

Mel, I can truly feel the turmoil you are facing, because my husband would have celebrated his 67th birthday on Oct. 6th. Instead he celebrated his 6th Anniversary in returning to God's care in June of this year. Sharon

Thank you, for posting this.

.....but He sure felt like mine for a long time.

Thanks for the post. I do believe and that is how I carry on. I don't like it at all but I have to trust in Him! Marilyn