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This is getting more real

Hkerberg
Hkerberg

I knew this was going to be hard, but today I made the final plans for my fiance. Never thought that less than a week later he would be ready for cremation. It was so hard to pick it his urn, to try and plan his celebration of life. To look through his past and see parts of his life I haven't yet. I love the support I have, but nothing anyone can say or do is helping as much as I'd hope. I just want to crawl in bed and cry, it's so hard to make arrangements for the man I loved so much, at just 28, this isn't fair. I know I can't think like that, but it's hard. I know he is always with me, I just want to hug him one more time, kiss him, hear his voice. Trying to keep it together on a bad day is hard. 

regwin
regwin
Again, I'm so sorry. I can feel your pain. This is probably the worst time. At the very beginning it all seems so unbelievable. I can say that even though it's been years since I lost my husband, I can never forget his voice. That can be comforting. Try your best to reflect on the wonderful moments you shared. I was always thankful for all we had and still am. Life continued on for me in a good way but I will always keep him in my heart.
It's a blessing that you have good people with you. It's alright. to let your feelings out. They care and they surely understand. Wishing you strength in your healing. Dolores