Yes, its very typical and normal. It takes time to get through this. One day, one step at a time. I am at 3 yrs and still have the same feelings most days. It will get easier as time goes by, you will think you have it made and it rolls around again and hits hard all over again. Everyone is different but that's the way it was/is for me. I do hope you will have peace as times goes on. just give it time and then more time.
Hugs,
JoAnn

I could have written that myself. I am 15 months widowed and though it gets better the overwhelmed feeling just persists.
In the beginning I tried re-decorating - all well and good - but I just ended up running up the credit card.
For the past six months I have been in automatic. I do what absolutely needs doing and anything and anyone outside of what is necessary just gets left.
Here's a hopeful point though: After struggling to stay in this home I have come to the decision to sell it find a smaller more manageable house in a beautiful area in the mountains.
It's not possible to do-it-all. Don't beat yourself up. Be kind to yourself.

hello mcl ,
3 months is not long at all.
you will see you will go through periods of happy and sad times, when my husband first passed ( its been 13 months ) I threw myself into my work and joined a gym , I was doing good, then after going to the gym so many times, I started to remember all our good times and I went backwards, it is gonna be toughest for you when you are alone, but I cannot say that for sure , as our own grieving is very unique, I learned this at the grief share meetings, you might wanna consider going to them ,,, they did wonders for me,
good luck my friend
Diane

hi vincero , I just read your post..... I too redecorated shortly after my husband passed,,,, I do love my hoiuse , but it I also too big for me, I am looking to downsize, I will be putting it on the market early next year,

We all seem to go through the same things.
When I feel like an outcast or a weirdo for feeling these things - the ones you speak of, especially - it's reassuring at least that we are typical, normal and working through it.

Hi I completely understand what you are saying I too felt like I was
making progress and then the grief just knocked me flat again. I think
it is just going to be an up and down process. God bless you Julie

It's only been 45 days for me but I too feel I am getting worse rather than better. I seem to lose it more often and for longer periods of time. I have no interest in doing anything. I could sleep all day and never get dressed, but I push through that and go out because I am afraid if I don't I will spiral downwards and never come back. I have no desire to go out with friends who suggest dinner or a movie. I really couldn't be with them for that long because they don't get it. If they haven't been through it they don't understand. I think this is a normal part of the grieving process but disturbing to us because we expect to be getting better and the process takes longer than we realize. Much longer. Hangin there. There is no other choice if we want to see our loved ones again.

You are feeling normal for us. Grief isn't linear but filled with hills and valleys. Sometimes we can feel better for hours or even days, but something will trigger us back to the beginning. Don't worry, it's how we heal. We can't do it all at once. Hugs, Sharon

I am so sorry for your loss.
It is hard to work your way through grief. Grief will seem to work its way through you. For the first six months you are not as in charge of things as you would like to be. In time though grief lets you back in. Gradually you will emerge with a new understands about life and the world around you. The answer to your question is yes; your reactions are typical and normal.
Martin

I think it's all part of the new normal! The same thing happened to me at the 3 month mark - I'll be at 5 months in a couple of weeks. Felt like I was backsliding. Like you thought I was coping but then went through a rough couple of weeks! This too shall pass. I don't know if it's a merry go round - but it sure is a roller coaster ride - you just need to hang on tight! It is hard to go out - my friends MADE me go out on Saturday for Rich's B'Day. I didn't want to go at all - but in the end I was glad I did. Hang in there. Hugs to you.