Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
After my entry about seeing a beautiful cardinal today,I left work and headed to u-save. Pulled in and turned right to go thru drive thru and bam. Some little elderly couple plowed right into me. Everyone was ok, but of course it started the water works. Last thing I needed today. Not much damage, I apologized for being a blubbering idiot and why I was. The little lady just kept hugging me over and over.. Neither car sustained much damage. We exchanged information and were on our way. I just wanted to get home to my cacoon. I am so grateful no one was hurt. And I am thinking ok what's the worst thing that could happen to me, oh yeah it already has, my husband died. By the time I got home I was remembering my husband's little green truck that he had many many years ago. It was the only vehicle he ever bought brand new. Well that poor little truck got hit 7 times in six months. Each time the other guys fault. Our insurance agent asked us if we had a target painted on it. Finally the last and seventh time it got hit we didn't fix it. And it never got hit again. By the time I got home I was chuckling about his little green truck.
Darlene
The worst thing that could happen? I shudder to think of it.
I think becoming a widower is not even the hardest challenge I had to face in my life, after much consideration. Perhaps the saddest and most painful. But not the "worst" -- not something that challenged my immediate survival or my existence. I recovered from narcolepsy caused by Bipolar depression, so bad I couldn't work, and my Pdoc said I would probably never work again. Well, he was wrong. I recovered from 10 years of homelessness, starvation, desperation with my family. That was hard to experience and hard to rebuild a life that works. And life-threatening many times.
I'm not glossing over grief and mourning, not saying "I had it worse than you" or anything like that.
Right now, most of us are in the throes of unbelievable pain and sadness. Like nothing we have ever experienced before. But we have all had our previous struggles and successes, and we need to remember those to give us hope in our darkest days.
When you said whats the worse that can happen ... you're absolutely right, it's already happened to all of us here.
We should be able to handle anything else now.
Hugs,
Janie