I took me and my girls out to our "first date meet" apple bees and we celebrated his heavenly birthday. For me it was much better than sitting at home, feeling sad and lonely. We each said one thing that we remember about sean, funny, silly, annoying, sad.. .whatever.. and the evening ended up not as sad, as I had anticipated. I'm sorry not only do you have his heavenly birthday but its the 6 month anniversary of his passing. I will be thinking of you ... much love and big hugs carla

On his 1st birthday after, I wrote in my journal my birthday prayers for him. I had a cupcake with a candle. I watched one of his favorite movies, The Green Berets with John Wayne. I had Dons robe wrapped around me. Don loved war movies, me not so much but I felt connected to him and comforted.

Well, Ruth, you've made it through most of today. Just do what feels right for you on his birthday. You're right, we know exactly how you feel. And we're here for you.
Hugs,
Linda

Hi Ruth, I am nearing 11 months now, and I do think I am doing much better -- laughing and joking at the office and finally starting to regain my clarity of thought. The x # of months dates are having less and less affect on me recently, but the one year will most likely make up for it. As for Juanita's birthday, it was about 3 weeks after she passed, and I didn't even take notice. I imagine this go around it will hit me hard. But I made it through Easter, in self-exile. Hang in there Ruth. You know we all love you ~~~ Scottie

Hey Ruth,
My wife's earthly birthday is in May. I already am not sure how that's going to go. I like what Carla wrote about being their first heavenly birthday. My prayers are with you.
Peace, Tim

Marylou passed into Spirit June 12th 2015, and so far, all of the "this-time-last-year" milestones have come and gone with about the expected level of heartbreak...May 19th is going to be the one year mark for the day I took Marylou to the hospital for her heart cath...that was a Tuesday, and I fully expected her to be home that weekend...but she never came home...a beautiful sunny morning, and as I held the door for her to walk in, I had no idea that would be the last time she would ever feel the sun on her face.
That one is going to be a bad one...and it's already getting started.

My time is approaching the year mark in mid April, and I am not going thru the motions of what led up to that date, I have hit all the milestones nothing left but the year anniversary. It jus seems like it got harder recently and I think I am feeling like nothing more to look forward to regarding my life with Bill,,,Yes, we all got it. Just continue to hang in there Ruth, that seems it is all we can do.

Hi Ruth,

Yes, we all understand the milestones. I'm approaching the 8 month mark and I have to say that life has gotten easier to manage. I made it through his birthday (hard) and Valentine's day (extremely hard) and my birthday (easier). It just seems like now it's the people around me who keep expecting me to fall apart if I don't have a funtastic birthday filled with activity and surrounded by hubbie and kids like I used to. I'm okay with things on the low key side, no fuss (I enjoyed a quiet birthday on my own - which was nice). I give thanks to the Lord that I am truly satisfied and happy with small things (a sunny day, my garden, etc.). As long as I know that my kids love me, I believe I'll be all right (and you will to). God bless and keep moving forward.