Arlene,
Don't do anything for a while.......tell him you're in mourning and need time to think, no matter what your circumstances are!

The fog won't lift for a while; can you afford to buy another truck? If your answer is NO then your stepson needs to back off. If you can afford it, give him the truck with your blessings and move on.

Family who move in before our loved one's are at peace and we're still in a fog just drive me crazy. Even if you can buy another truck, this boy is WRONG! He's insensitive and selfish.

I'm sorry that you're witness to this behavior and without even knowing Jerry I know he wouldn't approve of his son's attitude.

Good luck with this,

Warmly,
Roz

Not sure if your husband had a will leaving his son the truck? If your name is on it, I don't know why he thinks he should get it. I wouldn't do anything yet either. My husband's truck was his baby. It's titled in his and my son's name. My son offered to buy it, but I will never part with it, at least not for awhile. I just need my son to change the tiltle over to me. But I'm not in any rush. I still pay the taxes and insurance on it. As far as getting a lawyer, let him get one! Just my opinion. Or tell him you have been advised not to do anything for a year. You are so right, you do not need anything else adding to your stress, just so many unthoughtful people out there. Hugs and Love to you, hang in there! Michele

I am so sorry you have to deal with this right now. I agree with Roz don't do anything right now. You need time to clear the fog although I am nearing a year and mine is still here. You are in no shape to make big decisions. Your step son needs to wait until you are ready to make a decision. Your wanting to keep it for sentimental and need is totally understandable. I would do the same. its wrong for you step son to assume he's entitled to anything that has your name on it with rights of survivorship. If your husband wanted him to have it then he would have titled it that way. hang in there

hugs

Lisa

Thank you the comments. Jerry told his son he didn't want any issues about the truck that is was mine and mine alone. This truck is only 2 years old and cost $53,000 when we brought it. It was brought from our money not his sons. I pay the DMV fees, insurance, and fuel. I can't see giving him the truck when I'd have to buy a replacement. I'm still so upset. I've told him that year rule and he is pushing me. He also keeps saying I need to sell this and sell that. I'm not having a fire sale. hugs Arlene

NO.... it is yours, keep it. Make him get a lawyer, not you. It is legally yours. He is trying to push you. Won't he look silly? He deserves to buy himself a truck, not take yours. Have no contact with him. This is not a nice or caring person.... Sandee

The truck is yours. You are under no obligation to give or sell anything. If the son spends money on an attorney, he will be wasting money to be told the same thing.

Your husband put your name on the title.
Period.
The son would need written legal documents that his dad left that truck to him at time of death

Don't pay for a lawyer or even put any of your energy toward this attack. as another member said, if the son decides to, it is his choice and his bill.
It is unbelievable what relatives can put us through, much less SO SOON.
I've been attacked by family too, while at my weakest. and it isn't even "step" kids.
my worst nightmare.
we have to survive.

My answer may not be popular here but often because we are grieving we forget that the children are grieving and hurting as well. They also want to hand on to things and may be like dogs with a bone because like us, nothing makes sense and bad choices may be made. Yes the truck was bought with your money and yes the truck in his name. As you said in your post, he offered to buy the truck from you. There does not need to be drama. Would it be possible to sit down and have a heart to heart with your step son. If you can afford it, and decide to sell to his son, remember it's the memories that are important, not the actual material thing. No you should not have to part with things just because, but at the same time children who lost a parent are often pushed aside or seen as being selfish...
Just consider that the truck may be just as important to him because it was his father's truck. If on the other hand you can't financially afford to replace the vehicle, there are ways to approach the situation. Lawyers should not come into play before trying to keep the line of communication open. There are always 2 sides to the stories. Good luck

sorry meant to say the truck is in your name, I wish there was an edit function here...

Is the title in both names? Is there a TOD on the truck title? You are the surviving spouse and unless there is another person's name on that truck, it now belongs to you. Perhaps if your stepson wants to purchase it for the blue book value that might be of consideration. If you do not wish to sell, that is your choice and your stepson sounds like a bully.

Maggie

Arlene, take your time making any and all decisions right now. That is the only answer you need to give to anyone.

I'm so glad for the time I took and am still taking over 2 years later. I know when all the fog has settled, I will be grateful for giving myself this much needed time. And, so will you.

Roz

Please don't let anyone bully you into anything!

It's YOUR truck! Keep it.

Arlene, Yes we are grieving. Yes, the children are grieving too. But this does not mean we have an excuse for bad behavior. You don't need a lawyer until your stepson hires one to sue you for the truck. The truck is yours. THE TRUCK IS YOURS.

Be compassionate, if you can, and if he continues to bother you about the truck tell him you're sorry, but the truck is mine. His father decided that. Love you, Sharon

I would tell him if you ever decide to sell it, he'll be the first to know and leave it at that

The widows "wait at least until after one year passes before making any big decisions" is for good reason. we are fragile, vulnerable, our judgment is not up to our normal, etc.
The ONLY exception to that is when, financially or circumstances truly give us no choice.