Widows & Widowers Support Group
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It has been almost two years since I lost my partner in May 2007 and I have had many dreams of me searching for him and not able to reach him, plus several visitation dreams that are so vivid and real. Some are from me and some from him.
I had one of those searching dreams last night and found myself pondering when I awoke that in my head I know he is gone to spirit, but my heart will NOT let go.
Will I be like this for the rest of my life? I am so lonely and miss him more than words can say. It gets me scared to be so vulnerable and no one to call my own in this physical life. No one will ever replace him.
Does anyone relate to my experiences with dreams and feeling like your suffering will never end? Feeling totally stuck and helpless?
I have done it all with grief groups, therapy and keeping journals. I feel depressed, but functional. I just feel so cheated in life!
I had one of those searching dreams last night and found myself pondering when I awoke that in my head I know he is gone to spirit, but my heart will NOT let go.
Will I be like this for the rest of my life? I am so lonely and miss him more than words can say. It gets me scared to be so vulnerable and no one to call my own in this physical life. No one will ever replace him.
Does anyone relate to my experiences with dreams and feeling like your suffering will never end? Feeling totally stuck and helpless?
I have done it all with grief groups, therapy and keeping journals. I feel depressed, but functional. I just feel so cheated in life!
What's your opinion on this matter?
huggzzz
mugwort
"As long as I can I will look at this world for both of us. As long as I can I will laugh with the birds, I will sing with the flowers, I will pray to the stars, for both of us". ~Sascha, as posted on motivateus.com
My husband has not "visited" me but my mom and dad come to me often. I look forward to their visits. It is very comforting. When I "see" them, they look young and healthy. I believe that they are happy and free from earthly shackles. That eases the pain of losing them. I hope soon you can remember the sweet memories and learn to hold him in your heart, rather than feeling the ache in your arms for his touch. Hugz, Sharon
I believe our spirit body visits the spirit world while we are deep in the delta sleep. Our reality is based on our degree of vibration. In the spirit realms, the vibration is higher and as such our spirit selves. Meditation can also help with spirit communication.
I experience his presence all the time in various ways including flickering lights (earlier after his passing), shadows, stars, sensing his presence strongly and moving objects.
The one thing that I haven't experienced, but many have, is having him visit as an aparition by appearing in front of me to some varying degree either solid or transparent. I feel strongly that this will happen sometime.
Thank you for all of your input. I need to lift my spirit so I can lift others, including those in both planes of existence.