Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I lost my darling John nearly 4 weeks ago to this terrible disease. His funeral was last Thursday and now I have to learn how to live life without him by my side. I know I am in the very early stages. Its so frightening to hear that this can go on for months and months or years. It seems the more you loved, the more you suffer. So because of that I expect I will suffer until the day I join him. I loved him so much.
He was the strongest man I know. Two and half years ago he was first diagnosed while we were away in Gran Canaria. He was 2 days away from death but fought back to total health about 9 months later. He was clear of Leukaemia and was about to go on the clinic list for non-urgent patients when he was re-diagnosed this June. Again he vowed to beat it but it was unfortunately not to be. He was fine until about the very beginning of August. He passed away on the 15th August. He was 64 and one week.
This disease has no pattern. It is not hereditary, you cant catch it, you cannot entice it with bad living. You can be any age, sex, culture. If it chooses you, you get it. In 50 years time they reckon it will be cured with a tablet. But for now I have to grieve for my darling husband and I dont know how to start living without him. Jo
He was the strongest man I know. Two and half years ago he was first diagnosed while we were away in Gran Canaria. He was 2 days away from death but fought back to total health about 9 months later. He was clear of Leukaemia and was about to go on the clinic list for non-urgent patients when he was re-diagnosed this June. Again he vowed to beat it but it was unfortunately not to be. He was fine until about the very beginning of August. He passed away on the 15th August. He was 64 and one week.
This disease has no pattern. It is not hereditary, you cant catch it, you cannot entice it with bad living. You can be any age, sex, culture. If it chooses you, you get it. In 50 years time they reckon it will be cured with a tablet. But for now I have to grieve for my darling husband and I dont know how to start living without him. Jo
Being here has been my lifeline on earth. Having people who truly share my grief with their own loss gives me comfort and understanding. I hope you find being here a place to cry and learn from others experiences.
Ever so slowly we have more good days. You will too. Sharon
Hang in there,
Tina
My husband also died from AML Leukemia at age 74. He lived 2 yrs. after being diagnosed. He did have remission for a few months and his hair came back and he felt much better for a while. We were blessed to celebrate our 50th anniversary the days before he had to return to the hospital when the disease re-occurred. He passed away 7 yrs. ago, and I am not feeling the pain of that first year. I still get lonely and hate holidays - but I gradually learned to be thankful for each day and not look too far ahead.
Big hugs to you - Doye
Hugs
Katrina
I know the sudden onset of my husband's cancer which was AML leukemia, was unbelievable. Ben, too, was a big, strong healthy man.
I understand how you feel. My hope is NO ONE , has to go through that kind of suffering. The sooner the cure the better.
Now, dear Jo, you are here and going through this devastating pain of grief. I came here, after Ben's passing, the wonderful people here, were so encouraging and supportive.
You are in a good place, to vent and affirm your emotions.
We are here for you,
Sending love, hope and peace........from Sandra
We were married thirty years in June and I feel like half of my heart is gone away and until I see him again I won't be whole. I pray a lot and have several devotionals Jesus Calling is a great devotional if you are interested. Take care of yourself.