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Spread Your Wings

rbar321
rbar321
Yesterday was bittersweet for me my Son was married to a beautiful woman and I have a new Daughter in my family, but with my Wife now gone from us for three months it was a very tough day on myself and my two children.

My Wife Jilanne was so looking forward too seeing him take another step in his life but unfortunately it wasn't meant to be, as I watched my son make a speech about his Mother and then dance with his sister I was overcome with emotion. As the night went on and I watched my family and friends dancing with each other I became sad because again my Wife was not there with me.

Sad for myself but happy for everyone else because I would not wish the loss of a spouse on anyone, I have two Aunts and Uncles that are married 55 and 54 years and God Bless them as they are still very happy and in love with each other. I have my oldest uncle who lost his wife about ten years ago and now he met a women and they are going to get married, not bad for 80 years old.

I pray that my son and his wife can be as happy as my wife and I were together and I'm going to try even though I know I have a heavy heart and alot of tears left in me that one day I will be happy again.

All of us here owe it to ourselves and our lost loves to try and make it happen one day in our future. I don't know if it will ever happen for me but I know I need to give it a go.

There is a Elton John song called Skyline Pigeon and I believe the lyrics in the song are something all of us can relate too. My friends try and listen to the song and maybe one day we all can Spread Our Wings.

Take care of yourselves and God Bless Us All

Your friend Robert
snowalone
snowalone
Thank you Robert. I will listen to the song & by the way, very proud of you for making your way through the wedding (you said it was gonna be tough) and coming out the other side with this beautiful insight. Peace to you!

Nanne
onebrokenheart
onebrokenheart
Hi Robert, I listened to the song twice. So beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
staygolden3
staygolden3
Robert.....you handled the day with dignity, grace and courage. To see through your grief other peoples happiness is a giant step towards your own. Yes it will take time but with such a sweet heart as yours, I have no doubt that you will find happiness again someday when you least expect it. Carry on in your future like you did yesterday and fate will lead you down the right path. Your precious wife will always be by your side guiding you. Believe in her and believe in yourself.
You and your family are lucky to have each other.
Congratulation on your new daughter too. May they know the love you and your wife enjoyed!
Hugs and strength to you!
Darcie
tim57
tim57
Hey Robert,
I know it had to be tough. Your son also knows how hard it was for you to participate without your wife physically there. I say physically because she was spiritually.
I'm with you with trying to someday find happiness again. My wife always told me that if she went home first for me to carry on. Easier said than done. She lost her mother in 2003 and never recovered from it. But she did not want me to live alone without anyone. I just always thought like everyone else that we would be so old that if one went it wouldn't be long before the other was right behind.

Take care my friend.
Peace, Tim
missinskip22
missinskip22
Thank you Rob: I listened to the song. Thank you. I am so proud that you did such a wonderful job at your son's wedding I am sure Julianne is looking down and smiling. She is always with you. Hopefully one day all of us on here will find some sort of happiness again soon. I pray for each and every one of us. Great Job. God Bless Carol-Ann
cgriff4ever
cgriff4ever
Robert, what a very real understanding. Our loved ones would want us to push forward, smile, not worry, relax, and love......rather its family, friends or a potential new love, it's all about gathering those treasures before our last breath.....They had us, and now they are gone, so someday maybe, just maybe a new love will have us, and we will be gone. Everyone deserves a true love, maybe we are here to maybe someday be a true love for someone else, despite our true love we once had with our beautiful husbands/wives that have now passed on. Sorry just my 2 cents worth, not worth much either. Much love and hugs carla
scottito
scottito
Hi Robert, Nice to meet ya. As you travel this journey of grief, allow yourself to time to process what you are feeling and noticing. You are well on your way. Not a one of us had any friggin idea what real pain is until, like you, our heart was broken. I am letting myself be changed by it for the better, to use this as an opportunity for growth. I too have a song I latched onto in the beginning of my journey. Something, anything, to hang on to. Broken wings take time to heal. But we will be better than before. Soaring on the wings of God. ~~~ Scottie
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