Well I for one love that saying Ellen! It’s very true…albeit a hard one for many new people to understand but yet a necessary one in order to survive and thrive in this life. Thanks friend for taking the time to share that with us!
Love ya!
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I Love it too. And have followed that idea. Thank you, My friend, for sharing. Love and Hugs, Dolores

What an inspiring post. Yes in the beginning it's hard to let go of the past. But as time goes on our vision hopefully clears and we can begin to allow exactly this to happen. Hope it helps a lot of us here

Awesome Ellen! Words to LIVE by..I'm going to put that on a t-shirt!

Wonderful! Thanks!

Thank you for sharing

I am presently at the year and a half mark (almost). I am trying to focus on my kids and grand kids. My stepson is making sure that his dad's books will keep being published, which was actually the "heartbeat" of my late husband. I am hoping to get the stone ordered this month. They now say they can use a vector file - after all this time and trouble. Yes, we do have to keep living, so I just try to improve on things daily without being too hard on myself. I am looking forward to a long vacation coming up, although I don't have any time restraints that I know of. I would like to buy some new clothes, new glasses, and at some point a newer car.

I agree with the spirit of your words. My concerns is grief can not be ignored. It will make things worse. More and more doubts will flood will haunt you. No one can understand this unless they went through it. Those who went through it had a different walk as you. That means that we can share with each other. We can't give you a way out of this nightmare. Because all walks are different.

I met my husband our junior year of high school. It grew into a wonderful future filled with love and happiness. We were both planning retirement within a very short time. Our children were accomplished adults living there life. Dad and mom were ready to use their savings to enjoy life . My husband retired. I had my retirement in place. He was diagnosed with lung cancer and in 10 weeks he was gone. I didn't cause it to happen. He didn't want this to happen. Its not his fault. It happened. It was the worse thing that ever happened. My life ended as it was.
That was 11 years ago. I cried. I was angry just like you. I was jealous of every couple eating in a restaurant, walking together, going through trials and celebrating their joys. It's hard. It is very painful and there are moments I thought I was surely losing my mind. That's grief. So glad I had the people here who know exactly what it's like. Welcome to the group of survivors. Sharon.