Widows & Widowers Support Group

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So much grief, nothing is free from it

Grimmer
Grimmer

So much grief...I was thinking about an explanation about grief and how you have to grieve the loss of so many things. Some days it is just overwhelming.


I'm not sure if it's one grief or multiple grieving but I was thinking about it this morning oh no one really understands except this group, how all encompassing this process is.



I was thinking about it this morning how no one really understands except this group, how all encompassing this process is.


Today I woke up and tried to start my day, and I was looking at my clothes in the closet.  I couldn't believe how many things remind me of her.  Gifts from her, vacations with her, and just all of the sudden, like everyone keeps saying, my day was brought to a halt and I feel horrible.


 I so want the pain to stop.


I just needed to share and get this out, thank you for listening…

WildRose
WildRose
I think the closer you are the harder it is to come through the fog...I too had a bad day. Sunday so the weekends are hard as I know you all would know. Down time, night time and nearing Christmas will all be difficult times for us all.

Working my way through washing and finding his clothes brought pangs of longing. The girls were busy playing and laughing in the distance and I was playing music and my heart suddenly hurt hard. Tears flowed freely down my face and thoughts of embraces, whispers, dancing, laughter between him and I came flooding back and the want to rewind time to be by his side again.

I do hope the pain stops or eases soon for you. Please do keep sharing as there are many of us listening and feeling the same way.

Hoping that it is a better day for you tomorrow
WR x
Blackhole
Blackhole
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Marcy1
Marcy1
I organized my closet already, but saved my hubby’s work boots, bathrobe, and his work shirts. I feel the need to touch them daily. My hard chore is changing the linens on my bed. I change my pillowcase weekly but I have to share, it is so overwhelming to change the linens.8 1/2 months since we’ve slept together.sending hugs and support. So happy to have a place to share.
Ryse
Ryse
Thank you for sharing Grimmer. I leave my Hubby's wardrobe open so I can see his clothes. Some days I grab them and bury my face in them as I cry and wish he was still here. Other days, I can be okay and touch them without getting emotional. It's hard to know how I will feel from one moment to the next, grief is hard full stop. Sending you all my love and support. Thank you for this space x
Grimmer
Grimmer
Ryse,

Thank you for sharing your experience. This is such an awful journey, and so complicated, with the ups and downs. I have seen improvement over time, but at times exactly like you say, something will trigger an intensity of pain. Melancholy and loneliness are pretty much constant companions, but I feel like I’m walking on a razors edge emotionally an those intense feelings will hit.

I’m sorry for your loss and I hope You are able to find your way through this terrible journey to a place of happiness!

Joe