I know that feeling wellat 21 months. Most of my friends disappeared about 3 months after the funeral. I go to work, come home and spend most evenings alone. Just recently though 2 women I barely knew before have become good friends. They're both still married but they are very good about calling and going places with me. Their husbands work long hours and they don't sit home waiting for them. It's been good for me to get out more. I hope a friend pops into your life like these 2 women did with me. take care
Linda

Wendy, the loneliness is the hardest for me as well. You spend 24/7 with someone for 41 years and now we are forced to do everything alone. Even going for a walk isn`t easy because it is alone. I am not sure how we get used to this on a day to day basis because it is terrible and doesn`t seem to get better. I wish my dog would talk back to me because I think we all find ourselves talking to them since we have no one else. I do have a few friends that I still connect with but they are so busy still working and spending time with their own families. Sending you a hug, Lu Ann

I feel your pain. It will be 3 years for me in June. I miss my life so much. I find nights is the worse for me. I'm usually fine during the day. All you can do is try to get through one day at a time. Hugs. Barbara

Wish I had a dog; they are really very good company. I feel this way too, Wendy. After being almost too busy for so many years, I have to stop and wonder how I find myself here. Time hangs heavy. Feeling disconnected really hurts. I'm at a year and a half and realize I need to make some efforts if things are going to change.

Hugs,
Amy

tired of being alone too....I am retired and was just thinking the
other day, I can fill my days and nights with keeping myself busy
I volunteer, manage rental property and I do have friends, but
I still come home to an empty house and have no one to eat
dinner with, talk about my day with, make plans for the weekend,
I miss our saturday Costco runs, I miss someone to wake up to each
morning and have coffee with, I have 3 dogs, OH how I wish they
would talk back to me....I can get on the phone with someone and
chat but I want my husband back .... I want him in my house...I too
search hoping to come across something he left...we are all not
alone in our thoughts and feelings....yet we are all loney

I hear all of you. I am at 5 months and the loneliness is killing me. I miss my husband so much. I miss my old life with my husband. Even when I am around people I am lonely. I was just thinking what a loser I feel like. I have no one to love or care for me like my husband did. Edie

I'm at a little over 3 months and talk to my dog more than anyone else. I also have some good friends who call and make sure we go out somewhere once a week and my daughter lives about 20 minutes away. Even with that, some days and most evenings are very lonely. Every one else has their own life, and I feel that I no longer have one. All I can do is hope that it will bet better with time.

Oh Costco runs - he loved Costco I rarely go there now. Just me
Friends were couples, they won't even ask me to go snowmobiling w/them knowing I can not go alone. Why?
For some reason at almost 8 mos. I am in a rut. I ask God for that sign of what to do....I continue to say "I expect the best in life and with Gods help will attain it"

The loneliness is horrible isn't it? I am looking at two years in June. I think the loneliness has gotten worse the second year. It's a sad reality how friends slip away and the phone stops ringing. I live with a little dog myself and he has become my best friend. What a great listener those canine family members are. I'd be lost without him. Sending hugs back to you.
Carleen

Gentle ((hugs)) for your loneliness. I still to this day think my husband is simply off in the other room watching his TV at times. That brings me comfort and helps me to fall asleep. ;-) Patricia

I don't know so much if my friends slipped away from me or I from them. I am just not that interested in the gatherings that were so much fun as a couple but now single hold no enjoyment. I continue to get invited but just don't go. The company I need is that of someone to be quiet with, someone to confide in someone who is a partner to me. Right now the position is empty. My dogs do get a lot of my conversation. Sitting in this big house all alone really gets to me at times. The other night it was raining. I lay in bed remembering of how, when it rained, we would lay close to each other, being still and listening to the rain patter against the window. My only comfort the other night was my hand on the body of my little dog who lay curled up close to me. I think people can die of loneliness...I feel like it myself sometimes.

Wendy,
I also am at 1 year and 2 week. I totally understand what you are sying. After reading thes above posts I think this is the hardest part after the initial few months. I had posted this a while back but Here it is again. I think it says it all about the lonliness.
How true is this "'I have plenty of people to do things with -- I just have no one to do nothing with."

Peace to you,
Dave

Dave -- you said it so perfectly! No one to "do nothing with"! The Sunday mornings with breakfast in bed; the Friday evenings watching a movie.....just 'being'. No need to talk because we were comfortable with just 'being'!! Seems like we all struggle with that huge hole in our heart!! Hugs -- Ruth

I could not agree more Wendy. My hubby died in November. I have no neighbors where I live. I adopted a long hair dachshund and she and my bird are my company. Hopefully, it will get better. On the brighter side, I am going to University of Alabama for a few days in April, along with my daughter, to spend a weekend with my granddaughter who is a sophmore there. I wish you well.
Pat

I have been alone for three years in May and the lonliness is still with me every hour. The friends we had have moved on and I have not. I do not work now so I chatter all day to our dog and cat. Like you the phone can go days without ringing. Having said all that I know many people like us who have found a way to live full lives and are busy and active all the time but when you ask they still say they are lonely for that one person. I am very lonely but I have found some kind of peace in knowing my wonderful husband is no longer in pain or suffering and I still talk to him all the time, still feel married, and silently read these posts and know I am not alone. I wish you peace.