Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
How is it that the silence in a house can be so deafening, and a constant reminder of recent loss, and a new found empty life. How can one individuals silence cause such hollow echoing empty feelings and deafening silence?
nebby
remember when the sound of her vacuum cleaner drove you insane i miss that now as well
nebby
its cold here in florida, and i have the house closed. i can hear my own footsteps, and my breathing. who new that a place once filled with love and laughter could sound as hollow as a tomb
Rick51
I was thinking the bass thump I was hearing was loud music down the street, and then I finally figured out it was my own heart beat.
nebby
tom russell once wrote " a wounded heart is like a broken bell,it keeps on ringing but everyone can tell, its not the same"
mypenny2
I know the feelings you all are sharing....My husband of 37 yrs. died in April and it's hard being by myself...He was sick with cancer and we were always going to the hospital for surgery ..tests...chemo..Dr. appts...ect. f.or almost two years...It's lonely and the kids..who are adults really can't understand fully what I am enduring.....and I understand that...The road we are traveling is a hard one to navigate...alone.... hopefully we can help each other...Thanks for sharing....
nebby
who would ever think that those days at the oncologist or radioligist would be the "good old days"
nebby
jean was valiant and strong,, i tried to guard and comfort her,she was the truly brave one
Rick51
Thanks clyd... Isn't that the truth nebby.
Deb30
My husband was on too many pain meds to drive the last two weeks he was alive and not in the ICU. He was such a back seat driver. It made me crazy. I would try and just take it but every so often I'd snap at him and then we would have a fight. ME: Why are you telling me to turn when I'm in the turn lane with my signal on? You've gotta stop. HIM: Why did you just pass three perfectly fine parking spaces, what is wrong with you? ME: I like a nice sized parking space so be quiet (okay, really I said so just shut up). I actually think of those stupid little fights fondly now. We were just being so normal. I want to argue about any small stupid thing...I miss literally EVERYTHING.
Rick51
Even in the throes of the disease with some pain, suffering, and loss of function life can still be viewed as the good old days even if a myopic version.
nebby
that sounded so selfish of me
nebby
but i still love her
Rick51
At some point the quality of life although eroded is still worth living for the person that is ill. These times are the good old/recent days.
nebby
i could have done better
Rick51
We can all look back and think that. Guilt is a bitch and although it makes no sense we all seem to experience it.
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