Today I accidentally came across a FB post by Sam's ex-wife. She had taken a photo of his headstone, which I had purchased for almost 2 grand in 2011. People were saying what a nice stone it was, etc., and she started gushing out all this nonsense about how she never stopped loving him, even though the marriage didn't work out, and how her present husband was so understanding of her feelings. Additionally, she announced that she had bought the two plots next to him for her son and his wife! I would like to ask her why she didn't take a pic of the back side of the monument where it shows my name as his wife. I also wonder if she purchased a plot for herself on one side of him.
I am not as irritated about her buying the plots as I am about her pretending that I never existed, when I was married to him longer than she was (18 years vs. her 15), with another wife in between. In fact, she and I had talked about this right after I remarried and moved away - and she ASSURED me that she was not in love with him. Now she says she is. We had even emailed each other for a while until she started telling me that his family did not care much for me. I was accused of keeping him away from his family, which was not true. So I blocked her.
I forgot to mention that she had made noise about buying a headstone for him because I didn't do it right away; and I had said that if this were to happen, I would have it removed - or have him exhumed.
I don't really know how I'm supposed to feel about this. I definitely don't want to move back to the town where she lives, even though my youngest son lives there. I think this woman is just someone who likes to stir things up. Should I allow her to take repossession of my late husband? She even uses his last name again, along with her present married name.
I get wrote off because he died and I remarried; she remains close to his family even after she divorced him and married another man. I don't get it. I guess I could sign the deed over to her? It is a little beneath me to fight over a corpse. I wonder if this will happen again. I wonder if the cemetery lets us put up "No Trespassing" signs. I know this is in the category of "dark humor," but at the same time it seems so wrong. Maybe I should also send her what is left of his personal effects (the memory tote).
So it's been a month since my wife Patrice who was my best friend and companion who was always there for me. We were married for ulmost 15 years and knew each other for ulmost 18 years. This has been a nightmare for me. I am trying to figure out what to do with myself. I am legally blind and she was my main saport threw everything I dealt with. I am going to grief counselor every week but since...