Today I accidentally came across a FB post by Sam's ex-wife. She had taken a photo of his headstone, which I had purchased for almost 2 grand in 2011. People were saying what a nice stone it was, etc., and she started gushing out all this nonsense about how she never stopped loving him, even though the marriage didn't work out, and how her present husband was so understanding of her feelings. Additionally, she announced that she had bought the two plots next to him for her son and his wife! I would like to ask her why she didn't take a pic of the back side of the monument where it shows my name as his wife. I also wonder if she purchased a plot for herself on one side of him.
I am not as irritated about her buying the plots as I am about her pretending that I never existed, when I was married to him longer than she was (18 years vs. her 15), with another wife in between. In fact, she and I had talked about this right after I remarried and moved away - and she ASSURED me that she was not in love with him. Now she says she is. We had even emailed each other for a while until she started telling me that his family did not care much for me. I was accused of keeping him away from his family, which was not true. So I blocked her.
I forgot to mention that she had made noise about buying a headstone for him because I didn't do it right away; and I had said that if this were to happen, I would have it removed - or have him exhumed.
I don't really know how I'm supposed to feel about this. I definitely don't want to move back to the town where she lives, even though my youngest son lives there. I think this woman is just someone who likes to stir things up. Should I allow her to take repossession of my late husband? She even uses his last name again, along with her present married name.
I get wrote off because he died and I remarried; she remains close to his family even after she divorced him and married another man. I don't get it. I guess I could sign the deed over to her? It is a little beneath me to fight over a corpse. I wonder if this will happen again. I wonder if the cemetery lets us put up "No Trespassing" signs. I know this is in the category of "dark humor," but at the same time it seems so wrong. Maybe I should also send her what is left of his personal effects (the memory tote).
It has been a long time since I have posted. I have been struggling to find a way to express myself and find solace in an online support group. I first came here because of the unexpected loss of my 15 year old daughter July 2018. It has been an up and down battle. Trying to stay strong for my two younger children and oldest daugther, keeping life going- struggling with trying to get to a...
I find it so sad that this site has become almost non-existent. When my husband died suddenly 4 years ago, I came here because I had no real support system in my life to help me. I just read all the posts for several months before I finally joined in. There were so many members back then and the conversations were always going. Any time someone posted, there were immediately replies. ...