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NewRoadsForMe 01/28/2013

From our collective wisdom, I though it might be a good idea to post some positive self-counseling that we have done for ourselves. Specifically what words of advice do you have for yourself, some words that give us courage, assurance, and strength? Will you post your self-counseling, please?

I'll begin with:

I can do this.
I am stronger today than I was yesterday.
Fear is the opposite of faith.
This, too, shall pass.
I deserve XXXXXX today. I will do (or get) it for myself today.
I am a child of God. I am important even without my precious loved one.

dually 01/28/2013

Just keep swimming:))

deleted_user 01/28/2013

Feelings are temporary, how I feel today, will not be how I feel tommorrow, a month or year from now.

And once again Dually, I like "just keep swimming"

rochelle1466 01/28/2013

I am alive...........I am here for a purpose
I can do this! and all things through God
Just focus on one step at a time, not the entire staircase

jerseydebbie 01/28/2013

Eventually we all heal and form a degree of acceptance. However, no matter how long it has been, your heart is still entitled to hurt, holidays and important dates may remain painful, and it is OK to cry. You don't need or have to explain yourself to anyone. And, I strongly recommend private counseling if you are not able to handle it well or on your own.

Maritele10 01/29/2013

If someone wants to help you let them. It is a blessing to you and the person who wants to help. We don't have to this alone.

If you wake up in the middle of the night in a panic, remember everything looks worst at night.

Also remember you are doing the best that you could or can do. Don't beat yourself up over it.

Prayer helps!

Marilyn

lostmygem 01/29/2013

I tell myself everyday that I want to feel better, I don't want to be sad forever. God left me here for some reason, I"m not sure why but I want to be able to look at the wonders around me, count my blessings and be grateful for the life I've been given.
I will always love my husband and I thank God every night for the 35 years he allowed us to share together. Not long enough but I remind myself that I am still blessed b/c there are some people that are never lucky enough to have what we had.

cliffskat 01/30/2013

I posted these a couple of times as alternatives to the usual New Year's resolutions, and some people liked them and found them helpful. I refer back to them when I feel myself going off track again:

1. Be happy for whatever and whoever you have, and whatever and whoever you once had.

2. Be grateful for small blessings, unexpected wonder, loud laughter, minor successes, and new knowledge.

3. Be selfless - every person is precious - share the wealth of yourself. Someone needs you.

4. Love whoever is still here, starting with yourself first.

5. Dont give up.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

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