Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My husband passed away suddenly 3 weeks ago. He was 41. He worked in the oil field and was gone for a week and a half when he died. He was at a cookout on the yard with the company and choked on a piece of steak. He couldn't be revived. We were married just one month before. I miss him every second of every day. He was my second chance at love. He was the first and only man that I've ever truly loved. Between us, we have 3 boys, 18, 13, and 7. My son will leave for college in a couple of weeks. His boys are temporarily under my conservatorship until their mother takes me back to court again to change that. I took her to court to keep them in my house. She lost them 3 years ago to my husband due to CPS involvement.
It's still early in my grieving process and I go through so many emotions. Most days, I feel empty and dull. I'm just going through the motions. I know I'll never be the same woman I was before. I've read some posts in this group and I feel very similar to so many of you. I feel like I'll wake up from this nightmare one day and that beautiful man will walk back in the house and we'll continue with our plans for the future. I re-live that phone call I received from his supervisor telling me what had happened--everyday. I go over it in my head every day and it just doesn't seem real.
It's still early in my grieving process and I go through so many emotions. Most days, I feel empty and dull. I'm just going through the motions. I know I'll never be the same woman I was before. I've read some posts in this group and I feel very similar to so many of you. I feel like I'll wake up from this nightmare one day and that beautiful man will walk back in the house and we'll continue with our plans for the future. I re-live that phone call I received from his supervisor telling me what had happened--everyday. I go over it in my head every day and it just doesn't seem real.
You are very early in your grieving and it seems you have a lot to handle.
Please remember to take care of yourself, it's sometimes hard to remember in the first months.
Unfortunately this is a nightmare we will never wake up from.
I to relive those first moments, but trust me it will get easier.
Hugs, Sandi
Don't even try to look for your new normal yet. Based on my experience and that of others, I believe you will find that you will be going through a rollercoaster of emotions over the next few months.You are still reeling from the fact that this happened and have many struggles ahead as you learn to deal with your life going forward. At a few months past my husband's death I feel like most of the help I give here consists of me saying - "yeah I feel like that too". The folks who have been around longer offer us solace that things will become less consistently painful as time goes by.
I hope you get as much comfort from this diverse and caring group of people as I have.
No one has the answers for you, no one. I wish you clearer days ahead and less fog to guide you through those days. Don't forget to eat and sleep......that's all that should be expected of you.
Good luck with the children and helping to guide them through their fog too!
My thoughts are with you ,
Roz
Take csre
Russ
Take care.
Hugs,,,,,
I hated when people told me " in time" it will get easier. It's been 21 months and it HAS gotten easier.
I think I will always have sad moments, crying times that I miss him so.
But life moves on and it's so short. It's a gift that we have to use and appreciate. We don't know when it will end.
I don't want to waste years crying and being sad. He wouldn't want that either.
So, I'm doing my best to live as best as I can and enjoy family, friends and make a difference in this life.
Maureen